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If I'm happy now, I ignore experiencing pain.
如果我现在很快乐，就意味着我不再经历痛苦
It means I'm letting go. It means I'm not gonna be successful.
就意味着我放弃了，意味着我不会成功
It means I'm gonna lose my edge. It means I'm gonna lose my drive and ambition.
意味着我已经失去了棱角，意味着我不再有动力和雄心
So our subconscious prefers to keep, keep us unhappy, so that we don't lose the other things that we value highly,
所以我们在潜意识里选择不快乐，这样的话，我们就不会失去其它珍贵的东西
things such as ambition, things such as having an edge, things such as our hard work.
比如雄心壮志，比如长处优势，比如勤奋刻苦
Now of course when we look at them we know that they don't necessarily have to go hand in hand.
当然，依我们现在来看，我们知道这些东西并不是密不可分的
On the contrary, for example, happiness, we know from the broaden and build theory,
正相反，比如说，快乐，我们从"拓延-建构"理论中学到
the positive emotions are actually associated with higher levels of success.
正面的情绪是和成功联系在一起的
Whereas I'll talk about after spring break, when we talk about perfectionism.
等到春假之后，当我们讲到完美主义的时候，我会讲一些
We know from research, you'll be able to connect it also in the person. Many of you will be able to connect it in the personal level.
从研究中得来的理论，大家可以把这些理论和你们个人联系起来。你们中间有很多人会发现可以
We know that letting go of this fear of failure and coping, putting ourselves on the line more,
将其和自身联系起来，如果我们能赶走对失败的恐惧，学会面对它
learning from failures looking at it as a, as a stepping stone that contributes to our success in the long term.
学会冒险，从失败中学习经验，将失败看作是未来成功路上的垫脚石
It doesn't need to take away from our drive and ambition on the contrary.
这些都不意味着我们会相应的失去动力和雄心抱负
And the key if we wanna overcome this fear of failure or the worry/anxiety, or the guilt, or
克服对失败的恐惧，或担忧焦虑，或罪恶感，或
the slack of happiness, it's very often, not always, very often about understanding,
种种不幸福的关键，通常，不一定总是，而是通常是关于理解
or getting a better understanding of these characteristics. For example, understanding that I want to let go of my fear of failure,
或更好的去理解这些品格的含义。举个例子，要理解，我想要摆脱对失败的恐惧感
the debilitating fear of failure, not just fear of failure because every one is afraid of failure to some extent.
不是一般的恐惧，而是消磨人意志的恐惧，因为每个人都在某种程度上害怕失败
