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Times of vulnerability will inevitably show up to balance out the good times in life.
脆弱的时刻不可避免，它们的出现是为了平衡生活中的美好时光。
And as humans, we've evolved some pretty unhealthy ways of dealing with them.
作为人类的我们进化出了一些非常不健康的方式来应付它们。
We may mask our vulnerability beneath other negative emotions like anger and jealousy,
我们可能会用愤怒和嫉妒等负面情绪掩盖自己的脆弱，
deny it in order to convince ourselves and others that we are okay,
为了让自己和别人相信我们很好而否认它，
or even blame our problems entirely on external sources.
甚至把我们的问题完全归咎于外部因素。
These walls we built around our weak spots can protect us from being badly hurt,
我们在弱点周围筑起的这些墙可以保护我们免受严重伤害，
but the longer we work to hold them up, the more we allow our vulnerabilities to grow within us,
但越是努力阻止它们，我们就越容易让自己的弱点滋生，
snowballing into something more sinister like feelings of self-hatred, despair
并迅速发展成一些更加糟糕的东西，比如自我憎恨感、绝望
and even apathy, which can leave us prone to depression.
甚至是冷漠，这些容易导致抑郁。
But believe it or not, there are ways to transform vulnerability into something
不管你信不信，有一些方法能够将脆弱转化为
that gives us strength to go forward instead of holding us back.
给我们力量前行而不是后退。
Here are three steps to turning vulnerability into a superpower.
以下是将脆弱变为超能力的三个步骤。
1. Change your mindset.
1. 改变你的心态。
That means stop playing the victim.
这意味着停止扮演受害者。
It's tough love but only when you stop using vulnerability as an excuse to feel sorry for yourself,
这是一种严厉的爱，但只有当你不再以脆弱为借口为自己感到难过的时候
can you take responsibility for your situation and change it.
你才能为自己的境遇负责并改变它。
Instead of ruminating on your misfortune, move towards the mindset of acceptance.
与其对自己的不幸进行反思，不如采取一种接受的心态。
That means deeply acknowledging a painful situation and your personal role in bringing it about
这意味着要深刻地认识到一个痛苦的处境，以及你在其中所扮演的角色
without allowing these things to define your identity.
不要让这些事情定义你自己。
Sure, a bad thing may be happening to you now, but it is not characteristic of you.
当然，一件坏事可能正发生在你身上，但它不能代表你。
When you identify your own self harming behavior, you acknowledge that you have the power to change it,
当你认识到自己的自残行为时，就是承认了自己有能力改变它，
and that's when you start to take control as a superhero rather than a damsel in distress.
这时你就会开始以一个超级英雄的身份控制局面，而不是一个落难少女。
2. Tear down those walls.
2. 把那些墙拆掉。
Reach out to others and share your story.
与他人分享你的故事。
When you stop playing the victim, you stop looking to others for consolation,
当你停止扮演受害者时，你就不再向他人寻求安慰，
and as a result, people will feel safer sharing their ideas because they won't feel responsible for fixing you.
因此，大家在和你享他们的想法会感到更安全，因为他们不会觉得有责任解决你的问题。
So stop expecting others to swoop in and save you, and instead, use them as a source of inspiration.
所以，别指望别人会冲进来救你，而是将他们当做精神鼓舞的源泉。
You'll find that more people can relate to you than you think.
你会发现有更多的人能和你产生共鸣。
And once you realize that you're not the only one carrying this burden,
一旦你意识到自己不是唯一一个身负重担的人，
you'll fill its weight lift from your shoulders and a sudden sort of power that allows you to move forward.
你将卸下重担，一种突然的力量将让你继续前行。
That's the moment your vulnerability turns into a superpower.
那一刻你的脆弱就变成了超能力。
3. Commits to the new mindset.
3. 投入新的心态。
You might expect your brand-new superpower to make you positively unstoppable, but think again.
你可能期望你全新的超能力能让你势不可挡，但再想想吧。
As any comic book will tell you, even being a superhero requires hard work and maintenance.
任何一本漫画书都将告诉你，即使成为超级英雄也需要努力和恒心。
Small continuous efforts are required to prevent negative feelings from snowballing again,
为了防止负面情绪像雪球一样越滚越大，你需要持续的努力，
especially if you're prone to mental illness. A good mindfulness routine is the perfect countermeasure.
尤其是如果你有精神疾病倾向。一个良好的习惯是完美的对策。
When you fill that victim mentality creeping up again, try doing some stream-of-consciousness journaling,
当你再次充满受害者的心态时，试着做一些意识流日志，
gratitude journaling, meditation and track your sleep to ensure you get those eight hours.
感恩笔记、冥想以及记录你的睡眠，确保你睡足8小时。
These strategies lead to a heightened awareness of the good things in life
这些方法会让你对生活中的美好事物有更高的认识
that when recognized on a daily basis can stop you from falling victim to vulnerability.
当你每天都能意识到这一点，你就不会成为脆弱的受害者。
Hey Psych2Goers, don't forget that you're not alone on your self-improvement journey.
各位观众，不要忘记在自我提升的旅途中，你不是一个人。
Christine is an up-and-coming freelance blogger, documenting her struggles through life
克里斯汀是一个积极进取的自由博客写手，她记录了生活中的各种挣扎
and the strategies she's learned to get through them. This video is one of those stories.
以及她从中学到的策略。本期视频就是其中之一。
Feel free to check out her wordpress site link below, we're sure it will help you fill us along.
请点击下方链接，我们相信将对你有所帮助。
Thanks for watching!
感谢收看！
