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And it's not enough if we just create a small nook or cranny trying to create a new habit. Because flood would wash it away. What we need is the A, the B and the C. Implement these changes in our lives.
如果我们只是开一个凹角或一条小缝是不足以养成一个新习惯的，因为洪水会将它冲走。我们需要的是结合A、B和C，将这些变化融入我们生活中。
And they are interconnected. So let me give you an example. Let's say someone who has low self-esteem. Low self-esteem, the C- cognition: they don't think highly of themselves. Poor self evaluation.
它们是内部相连的，举一个例子，例如那些自尊心很弱的人。低自尊心，C——认知：他们会小瞧自己，自我评价低。
When you don't think highly of yourself, you are more likely to be innervated, to feel down, not to be motivated, and as a result of that, that is the Affect, the emotion that you experience- not good feelings; as a result of that, we are much more likely to do nothing- in other words, the B is do nothing.
当你瞧不起自己时，就会比较内向，感觉没自信，更别说有动力了，也因此而产生不良影响。产生不好的情感，因此很可能会变得碌碌无为。也就是说，B是碌碌无为，通过自我认知理论
Now through self-perception theory, the behavior then affects my cognition on doing nothing: I'm not dealing. I'm not coping. I'm avoiding.
这种行为进而影响我对碌碌无为的认知，我处理不了事情，我逃避事情，
And that lowers my self esteem, even more my evaluation of myself, the C. And that leads to even worse emotions and so on and so on and so on, in a downward spiral, until in some cases, we reach resignation, or in Martin Seligman's words, learned helplessness.
这会使自尊降低，进而使自我评价更低，就是C。这导致更低落的情感，等等，形成一个向下的螺旋，直到在某些情况下，我们自我放弃了，或用马丁·塞利格曼的话来说，就是“习得性无助”。
Now think of someone who has high self-esteem, high level of self-confidence. I believe in myself. I think I can do well. That leads to high level of motivation.
现在，想想那些自尊心强的人，他们很有自信。我相信自己，我认为我能做好，那样会导致高水平的激励。
Remember what Marva Collins does? The model that we talked about under belief, self-fulfilling prophecies- that leads to high levels of motivations, strong emotions. I'm energized.
记得玛瓦·科林斯是怎么做的吗？我们讲过的关于信仰的模型，自我实现预言、能提高个人动机和导致强烈的情感，我充满动力。
