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Say you have been inactive for several years and now wanted to get fit. You'd need a plan of action, Parinello says. Maybe you'd start reviewing your successes: What has motivated you in the past? Which sport seems made for your body? Next, you'd study your options. You might consider a spa weekend as a jump-start, but you'd also check out the nearest aerobics classes, survey potential workout partners, locate the local hiking trail. Then you'd try those options one at a time avoiding the temptation to do everything in one great rush. Periodically, over the next weeks and months, you'd ask yourself how you are doing and adjust your plan accordingly.
你或许会从回顾你的成功经历开始：过去是什么一直激励着你？哪种运动适合你？下一步你要研究一下你的可选项。你可能会想到周末去泡一下温泉作为预热启动，同时也会查一下最近的有氧健身课程，找一起锻炼的伙伴，考察一下附近的徒步旅行路线。接下来你就要一次尝试一项，避免一下子做完所有项。在接下来的几周或几个月里，定期地问问自己进行得如何，然后根据情况调整计划。
Using a similar methodical, step-by-step technique can earn you more money, help you get better at your job, or even improve your relationships. If the process doesn't sound appealing or even possible, ask yourself why. "Change takes a commitment to yourself that's difficult for some people," says Ditta M. Oliker, PhD, a clinical psychologist in private practice in Los Angeles. "Maybe you don't trust that you have the discipline for self-improvement. Maybe you are afraid of success."
用类似的井井有条、循序渐进的方法可以让你赚到更多的钱，有助于你把工作做得更好， 甚至能够改善你的人际关系。如果这个过程听起来不够吸引人，甚至不可能实现，自问一下原因。“改变需要你对自己作出承诺，这对一些人来说很困难。或许你不相信自己有自我提高所需的自制力，或许你惧怕成功。”洛杉矶一家私人诊所的临床心理学家迪塔·M.奥利克博士说。
