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How Smart People Deal with People They Don’t Like
如何巧妙应对讨厌的人？

They pause and take a deep breath.

停下来，深呼吸

Some personality characteristics may always set you off, says Kathleen Bartle (a California-based conflict consultant). Maybe it’s the colleague who regularly misses deadlines, or the guy who tells off-color jokes. Take a look at what sets you off and who’s pushing your buttons. That way, Bartle says, you can prepare for when it happens again.

Kathleen Bartle是加利福尼亚的一位冲突顾问，她说，总有一些人的个性会让你感到生气。或许是你的同事不能按时完成任务，或许是有个人总给你讲低俗笑话。面对这种情况 ，你不妨静下来思考一下，究竟是什么让你如此生气，是谁触及了你的“怒点”？在Bartle看来，通过这种方法，会让你在心理上有所准备，以免再次生气。

According to her,“If you can pause and get a grip on your adrenaline pump and go to the intellectual part of your brain, you’ll be better able to have a conversation and to skip over the judgment.”A deep breath and one big step back can also help to calm you down and protect you from overreaction, thereby allowing you to proceed with a slightly more open mind and heart.

根据Bartle的分析，“如果你能通过暂时停下手中的工作，来控制肾上腺素水平以及恢复大脑理智，那么你就会进入一个更好的谈话状态，也会更容易忽略偏见。”深呼吸和退让一步也能帮助你冷静下来，防止你过度反应，同时拥有更开放的心态和思想。

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