Get Better at Saying No
Many of us have a tendency to say "yes" whenever we're asked to take on something new. Often, we're reluctant to say "no" because it's just a little job ... perhaps taking the minutes for a regular meeting at work, or making cakes for the kids' school fete, or helping out with our partner's accounts.
The problem is, little jobs often go on over time and become tedious commitments, draining energy as well as time. Plus, if you keep saying "yes", you'll find your free time shrinking rapidly. One of the best ways I've found to say "no" is to ask for a few days to think about it. This is often easier than feeling put on the spot for a decision, and it also lets people know that you're taking their request seriously.
学会说“不”
在问及要不要做新任务是,我们常倾向于说“是”。通常,如果这个任务不大,我们更不愿说“不”……比如,在工作中作常规会议的会议记录、帮小孩为学校制作蛋糕、帮忙合伙人审计账户。
其问题在于,这些小任务通常会超时、变的无聊、吸走你的精力和时间。再加上,如果你一直说"是“,你会发现空闲时间急剧缩短。我发现最好地说”不“的方式是要求多几天考虑。这比马上做决定要容易得多,这也会别人认为你在认真考虑他们的请求。