3. She has wonderful qualities, but I get stuck on her flaws. - It’s always easier to destroy than to create. Likewise, it’s easier to be negative than it is to be positive. Many relationships fail because both parties concentrate their attention on their partner’s flaws instead of the qualities they love about them. You learn the most about somebody by figuring out their strong points, rather than disputing their weak points. Over time both partners can work on their weak points collectively, so long as each person keeps a positive attitude and an honest line of communication. Keep in mind that it is impossible work on the weak points of a relationship if you are incapable of seeing your partner’s strong qualities.

3、她有很多的优点，但我就是忍受不了她的缺点。——破坏总是比创造来的更容易。同样，否定也比肯定更容易。很多情侣最终分手就是因为双方都只注意到对方身上的缺点而忽视了他们所喜欢的优点。通过指出别人的优点能更好的了解他，而不是争论他的弱点。只要双方都能保持积极的态度并且真诚的沟通，久而久之就能一起来解决各自的弱点了。要记住如果在恋爱中你不能看到对方的优点，那也不可能解决对方的缺点。