9. Is something making you lonely
是不是某件事让你感到孤独

Introverts like their own company, but it’s easy to get too much of it. When this happens, ask yourself what’s changed. Are you with someone who makes you feel lonely even when they’re right next to you? Are you in a new town, job, or living space? Do your surroundings or routines feel stale and overdone? What’s making you unhappy with the situation?
内向的人喜欢独处，但总是一个人也不太好。如果孤独来袭，请问问自己发生了怎样的变化。是不是某些人明明就在身边却还是让你感到孤独呢？你搬到了新城市、换了新工作或住处？是周围环境或日常琐事让你觉得索然无味而难以承受吗？这种情况下是什么让你觉得不快乐？

In some cases, people feel lonely because something is missing. In others, people feel lonely because something needs to be subtracted. This can be harder to identify, because we always try to hold on to the things we believe make us happy and define us. A big part of overcoming loneliness is defining oneself on one’s own terms.
有时候，人们感到孤独是因为失去了某些东西；有时候，人们感到孤独是因为需要精简掉某些东西。这很难定义，因为人们总是试图紧紧抓住自认为能够让自己开心并定义自己的东西，而战胜孤独很大程度上需要用自己的方式去定义自己。