现在你已经成为家庭成员的一份子,要学会和你的新岳父搞好关系
Step 1: Get him involved 让他多参加活动
Get your father-in-law more involved in projects and activities around the house such as installing a new porch or a new entertainment center.
Step 2: Hang out more 多和他一起出去闲逛
Hang out together more as a family over dinner or drinks. Familiarity often encourages stronger positive feelings.
Step 3: Never talk about your marriage 从不要谈论你的婚姻
Keep the conversation light and never talk about negative aspects of your marriage. After all, this is their daughter or son and your spouse — no good can come from complaining.
Step 4: Pick your battles 为自己说话
Pick when to stand up for yourself and when to let things go. Either way, always be respectful. Patience and reserve will ultimately pay off in the long run.
Step 5: Ask for advice 征询意见
Ask for advice on little things so the father-in-law feels like he is an important member of this new life. Give compliments whenever you can, just don’t brown-nose.
Step 6: Talk openly 开诚布公地和他交谈
Talk openly and honestly with your father-in-law and learn as much as you can about being married, having a family, and any other life topics. The more common ground you can find, the stronger the bond will be.