You can become more fearful and protective of your lifestyle and your loved ones or you come to terms with the fact that open and tolerant societies will always come with their own risks. These societies flourish because we put our trust in people, in authorities and in places. And at the same time we accept we don't always have the answers to senseless violence, even as we remember the perpetrator and the victims. Trying to understand what the perpetrator has done is important for the sake of moving forward but even with the focus of the media for most of us, he is eventually reduced to little more than a name and a crime. It is the lives of his victims which live on in the hearts of their families and friends. Their deaths don't diminish them, rather each one of them will be remembered now by someone someway who knew them probably every single day. We don't forget through death. We remember even more intensely as a way of keeping our loved ones near to us. Losing someone you love to a violent death is tragic, it can turn you to God or it can turn you away from God. Religious faith itself while always reminding us to think of a life beyond this one, often struggles to provide any answers. But even though most of us aren't affected by such events, it would be sad if it were felt that the only choice was between complacency and buying more guns. It is right that leaders use such events to reflect on who we are as individuals and nations, but building a better tomorrow through a commitment to non-violence is a daily obligation on all of us.