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Aristotle and Plato, our main Greek boys knew what they were talking about when they thought about love.
亚里士多德和柏拉图，我们伟大的古希腊先哲知道当他们想到爱时他们在谈论什么。
In fact, Canadian psychologist, John Allen Lee also found their work meaningful,
事实上，加拿大心理学家约翰·艾伦·李也发现了他们工作很有意义，
that he borrowed some of their greek terms and invented the colour wheel theory of love.
他借用了他们的一些希腊术语并发明了爱的色彩轮理论。
Vibrant and easy to follow, we will also be using this tool throughout this video to help you explore the many different types of love.
该理论生动明了，我们也将在视频中使用这一工具帮助大家探索多种不同爱的类型。
Although times have changed since Aristotle and Plato were alive,
虽然时代变了，
the world has evolved with dating apps, flirty emojis and romantic means, one thing hasn't: we all yearn for affection.
世界上也出现了各种约会软件、调情表情包和浪漫的手段，但有一件事没有变：我们都渴望感情。
Whether you're just getting into your first relationship, or you prioritize self-love first and foremost,
不论是初恋还是以自爱为先，
here are the 8 types of love you will experience in this lifetime.
以下是一生中你将经历的8种类型的爱。
1) Playful love (Ludus)
1. 游戏之爱
Are you a 'no-strings-attached' sort of partner? Do others find you flirty and fun? Then Ludus describes you perfectly.
你是那种‘没有附加条件型’的伴侣么？其他人觉得你很会撩很有趣么？那么游戏之爱完美贴合你。
People who experience playful love see it as one big exciting game.
经历游戏之爱的人会将爱视作一场刺激的大型游戏。
Instead of committing fully to one person, their main objective is to make things less complicated
他们不会专心于一人，他们的主要目标是让事情没那么复杂
by having multiple partners or being friends with benefits.
因此他们会寻找多个伴侣或是为了利益为交朋友。
On the upside, this type of love keeps things burning with excitement and childlike innocence.
从好的方面来看，这种类型的爱会让一切充满刺激和天真烂熳。
But on the downside, people who prefer playful love like to feel in control, so they end up manipulating their partners,
但是不好的一面是，喜欢这种游戏之爱的人喜欢控制的感觉，所以他们最终会操控自己的伴侣，
whether it means lying, deceiving or exploiting their weak spots.
不论这意味着撒谎、欺骗或是利用对方的弱点。
Unfortunately, if you're a highly sensitive person, then this type of love may not be for you.
不幸的是，如果你是一个高度敏感的人，那么这种类型的爱并不适合你。
Daniel Kim, from We The Kims channel, dives deep into what a highly sensitive person is, and how they function differently.
《We The Kims》频道的Daniel Kim会深入讲解是什么是高度敏感人群以及他们行事的不同。
Be sure to check out his link in the description below after this video.
一定记得待会点击链接观看。
2) Obsessive love (Mania)
2. 依附之爱。
Ah yes, there's nothing like being bitten by the nasty old green bug, or putting on a mad hat.
没错，什么也比不上被一只调皮的绿色虫子咬一口或是戴上一顶疯狂的帽子。
People who experience Mania often suffer from low self esteem, and want to feel complete.
经历依附之爱的人通常自尊心低下且希望感觉完整。
So they often latch onto their partner, which usually creates a codependent relationship.
所以他们往往会缠着他们的伴侣，这样通常会制造出一种相互依赖的关系。
The good news however is that one can always grow out of Mania, and move onto a different type of love that's free from obsession.
好消息是人们可以通过成长脱离依附之爱，并步入一种不受痴迷所困扰的不同类型的爱。
In order to repair a codependent relationship,
为了纠正相互依赖的关系，
Dr Misty Hook says that it's important to set boundaries and find happiness as an individual.
Misty Hook表示设定界限和发现快乐很重要。
Whether that means spending more time with family and friends,
不论这意味着花时间和家人朋友相处
broadening your networking circle or picking up a new hobby, these activities can all build your independence.
还是拓宽你的社交圈或是培养新的爱好，这些互动都能够建立你的独立性。
3) Erotic love (Eros)
3. 情欲之爱。
Eros was the son of Aphrodite, the goddess of love.
厄洛斯是爱神阿佛洛狄特之子。
This is when things get real steamy and intense, like those R-rated scenes your parents stop you from watching.
这种爱是画面开始变得强烈且热气弥漫，就像是父母不让你们看的R级画面一样。
This type of relationship involves a strong physical and emotional connection, where both partners exercise compassion.
这种类型的关系包含一种强烈的身体和情感连接，双方在这种连接中展现怜悯。
Romantic and idealistic, Eros leaves people feeling high on love. It is also often the initial stage of an exclusive relationship.
情欲之爱既浪漫又理想，会让人因爱而兴奋。这也通常是唯一关系的最初阶段。
4) Enduring love (Pragma)
4. 现实之爱。
Do you often feel like butterflies are overrated? Or just want something that's stable and lasting.
你是否经常感觉芳心大动的感觉被高估了？或是只想追求稳定持久的东西？
People who prefer enduring love have a practical approach towards relationships.
倾向于现实之爱的人选择情侣关系有一种实用方法。
They choose convenience over romance and are more concerned about whether a partner can bring common sense to the table.
他们选择便利而非浪漫，更关心另一半是否有直觉决断力。
The individual also find their partner's level of education, religious beliefs, social status and financial standing important.
他们也觉得另一半的教育水平、宗教信仰、社会地位以及财务状况非常重要。
5) Friendship love (Philia)
5. 友谊之爱。
This type of love, along with the remainder, are not in Lee's colour wheel theory of love,
这种类型的爱和剩下的类型都不属于李的爱的色彩轮理论，
but they are still important enough to the Greeks to be explored.
但是它们仍很重要并被希腊先哲所探索。
In fact, they consider it far superior than Eros because it's a love that's equal.
事实上，他们认为这种爱比情欲之爱更胜一筹，因为这种爱是平等的。
It is commonly believed that if you have one good friend in life, then you're lucky.
普遍认为如果一生中能够一位好友，那么你就是幸运的。
Philia is the platonic love we have for others whom we are not physically attracted to.
友谊之爱是一种彼此精神恋爱，双方并没有身体上的吸引。
This type of love thrives on components of loyalty, openness and a true sense of understanding one another.
这种类型的爱情成长于忠诚、率真以及真正的理解对方。
6) Familial love (Storge)
6. 亲情之爱。
Storge is a Greek term that means natural affection or family love.
Storge是希腊术语，指的是自然的情感或家人的爱。
This type of love is the first you experience throughout your life. It forms between parents and their children.
这种类型的爱是一生中最先体会到的情感。通常形成于父母和孩子之间。
Some of us are blessed with wonderful childhoods, and we can rely on our parents again and again for guidance.
一些人童年美妙，我们可以一次又一次的依赖于父母的引导。
But those of us who grew up in a toxic household may find it difficult to achieve familial love.
但是童年家庭不幸福的人或许会发现很难实现亲情之爱。
7) Self-love (Philautia)
7. 自我之爱。
This type of love shares the Buddhist philosophy of self-compassion.
这种类型爱和佛教的自我同情哲学一样。
In order to reach Philautia, one must exercise self understanding until they gain the strength to love themselves.
为了实现自我之爱，一个人必须理解自己，直到他们拥有了爱自己的力量。
It is only until we accept who we are that we can love others. But, true self-love isn't just experience at certain moments.
只有当我们接受真实的自己才会去爱别人。但是真实的自我之爱并不是某一时刻的经历。
It must be unconditional love you have for yourself.
这必须是你对自己的无条件的爱。
If you've been in an abusive household or relationship, self-love will seem like a foreign concept.
如果你在一个受虐家庭或关系中，那么自我之爱于你而言将像是一个陌生的概念。
Some helpful tips that are to practice include:
实现自我之爱的一些有用方法包括：
asking yourself what you need, allowing yourself to feel your emotions instead of tuning them out, and meditating.
问自己需要什么、让自己感受自己的情感以及冥想。
8) Selfless love (Agape)
8. 无私之爱。
Last but not least, we have Agape. This is the highest form of love we will ever experience.
最后是神对世人的爱。这是我们一生将经历的最高形式的爱。
Agape is what Buddhists refer to as universal kindness.
神对世人的爱是佛教中的博爱。
When we exercise selfless love, we are capable in forgiving and seeing the good in others.
当我们经历这种无私之爱时，我们能够原谅并发现别人身上的善。
You can have Agape for strangers, religious figures or nature.
你可以对陌生人、宗教人物或是自然报以博爱。
In this type of love, you learn to be altruistic and giving, helping those in great need of support.
在这种爱中，你将学会无私和奉献、帮助那些需要帮助的人。
Which type of love resonates with you the most? And which kind would you liek to experience before you die?
你对哪些类型的爱最有共鸣？离开之前，你最想体验哪种爱？
Please share your thoughts with us below. If you're curious to learn more about love,
请在下方和我们分享你的想法。如果你想了解更多，
be sure to check out our video on Sternberg's Theory of Love.
请一定要观看视频《斯腾伯格的爱情理论》。
Also, don't forget to subscribe to our channel for more helpful tips, and share this video with others.
还有不要忘记订阅我们的频道获取更多技能并分享本期视频。
With your help, we can reach more people and provide our support. Thanks for watching!
有了大家的帮助，我们可以接触更多人并提供支持。感谢收看！
