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“In the end there doesn’t have to be anyone who understands you. There just has to be someone who wants to.” 一段时间过去后，其实你不需要有人了解你，只需要有人愿意去了解你。

（19：46 完整英语的访谈｜English Interview starts at 19:46）

Hello everybody, you are listening to the Fly with Lily podcast here. And then right now beside me is Omar. Omar is visiting me in Taiwan and we just had a couple of days here. He is visiting here and enjoying food and traveling around Taiwan island. And we also talked about doing a podcast together. So we have come up with this idea of like bad first date question. How do we turn them into good first date question? Because I have a lot of students, they want to date foreigners, but they don't know how to. Usually they don't know what to ask. Or the questions I heard were pretty ridiculous. So I would like to help my audience on that. So Omar, say hi to our audience. Hello everyone, glad to be here with you and with Lily. Yay! So, let's get started. Alright.

大家好，你正在收听 Fly with Lily 播客。然后现在在我旁边的是Omar。Omar正在台湾拜访我，我们刚刚在这里待了几天。他正在这里参观，享受美食并环游台湾岛。我们还讨论了一起做一个播客。所以我们想出了糟糕的第一次约会问题的想法。我们如何将它们变成好的初次约会问题？因为我有很多学生，他们想和外国人约会，但他们不知道怎么办。通常他们不知道该问什么。或者我听到的问题非常荒谬。所以我想在这方面帮助我的听众。Omar，向我们的听众问好。大家好，很高兴和你们在一起，和莉莉在一起。耶！那么，让我们开始吧。

1. foreigners 外国人｜Westerners 西方人

2. ridiculous 荒谬

3. audience 听众/观众

Okay, the first one is, usually this is pretty common, women (are) attracted to success. So they want to know, like, how much is your salary? Yeah, so at least in Western culture, that's not really an appropriate question to ask. It's just very personal, and a lot of people may find offense to that. But it still is an important thing to know. But there's a lot of other subtle ways that you can ask that where you'll still get the answer you need, but you won't really offend someone. So a way that you can ask is are, what are your career goals? Or where do you see your career in the next five years? And based on those answers, you can probably ascertain about where that person's career is headed and what kind of lifestyle they live.

好吧。好的，第一个是，通常这很常见，女性被成功所吸引。所以他们想知道，比如，你的薪水是多少？是的，所以至少在西方文化中，这不是一个合适的问题。这是非常私人的，很多人可能会觉得冒犯。但这仍然是一件重要的事情。但是还有很多其他微妙的方式来问，仍然会得到你需要的答案，但你不会真正冒犯别人。所以你可以问的一种方式是，你的职业目标是什么？或者你如何看待未来五年的职业生涯？根据这些答案，你可能可以确定此人的职业发展方向以及他们过着什么样的生活方式。

***比起“How much is your salary?”更好的问题是“what are your career goals? Or where do you see your career in the next five years?”

4. are attracted to 被…吸引

5. salary 薪水

6. Western culture 西方文化

7. offense/offend/offensive 冒犯

8. subtle 微妙的

9. career goals 职涯目标

10. ascertain 弄清、确定

Okay, so can we do an example? Yes, so for example, yeah, so like if you're on a date and someone says, well, you know, I don't really have any career goals, I'm just happy working as a janitor cleaning toilets. There's no disrespect in that position, but you kind of get an idea of like where they might be at, versus if you ask the same question someone says oh, I'm the Vice President of a bank and then in the next five years I want to be the CEO of the bank You can tell they're definitely on a different career path than the previous example. So, you know like I said, the most important thing with dating someone is you know that you get along personally and you enjoy that person not so much the career, but it's also sometimes good to know.

好的，我们可以举个例子吗？是的，例如，就像我们约会时有人说，好吧，我真的没有任何职业目标，我只是很高兴做清洁厕所的工人。我们不是不尊重做清洁工的人，但你会知道他们的职业生涯，如果你问同样的问题，有人说哦，我是一家银行的副总裁，然后在接下来的五年里我想要成为银行的首席执行官，你可以看出他们的职业道路与前面的例子完全不同。所以，就像我说的，与某人约会最重要的是你知道你个人相处融洽，你喜欢那个人而不是事业，但同时也很高兴知道他们的职涯规划。

11. janitor 清洁工

12. Vice President 副总裁

13. get along 与...相处融洽

For sure. But, when can I really know their salary? Well, I think that, at least in Western culture, that usually comes up after you get to know each other pretty well and are maybe considering moving in together or renting an apartment together or even buying a house together. Once you get to a point to where you might be making a large purchase together, then that kind of becomes relevant and important. But up to that point, it's something that you got to be very careful with. Now some people are willing to volunteer if you kind of hint around it, but usually it's best, especially when you're just getting to know someone, to ask that question in a different way, more or less pertaining to career goals rather than actual salary.

当然。但是，我什么时候才能真正知道他们的工资呢？好吧，我认为，至少在西方文化中，这通常是在你们彼此非常了解并且可能正在考虑一起搬进来或一起租公寓甚至一起买房子之后出现的讨论。一旦你们到了可以一起进行大笔购买的地步，那么这种事情就变得相关且重要了。但在那之前，这是你必须非常小心的事情。现在如果你稍微暗示一下，有些人愿意自愿提供这方面的资讯，但通常最好的办法是，尤其是当你刚刚认识某人时，以不同的方式问这个问题，或多或少与职业目标有关，而不是实际问题薪水。

14. move in together 同居

15. relevant 有关系

16. hint 暗示

17. pertain 与...有关

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