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What issues do you need to resolve with yourself?

如何学会独处？

When you feel lonely you look around for someone to fill the void in your life. You assume that your loneliness stems exclusively from being alone. But once you find company, it doesn’t take long before you realize that there’s still a void in your life.

感到孤独的时候总会找人来填补这份空白。你以为这份孤独来自于一个人的孤单，但一旦找到了同伴，似乎生活的空白还在那，你仍然觉得孤独不满足。

You still feel lonely and unfulfilled, so you blame it on your company and you move on to someone else… and then someone else. This cycle perpetuates for months, or even years, until you are eventually ready toface the truth.

你把这些归结在自己的同伴身上，然后抽身去寻找下一个......再下一个。这样的循环会持续几个月甚至几年，直到你自己真正面对了事实。

The truth is, a partner, or even just a friend, can add lots of beauty to your life, but they can't fill a void that exists withinyou. You alone are responsible for you own fulfillment.

事实就是，生活中的伴侣或只是朋友，只能为你的生活添加色彩，却无法填补你生活中的空白。你自己要对填补空缺负责。

If you feel desperately lonely when you're alone, it means you're in bad company. It means you need to work on your relationship with yourself first. To believe otherwise is to delude your mind and perpetuate your loneliness as you hop from one failed relationship to the next.

当一个人的时候，如果你觉得极度空虚，就说明你自己本身就很糟糕，意味着你需要从自己开始好好架构一下人际关系。否则，你只会不断的从一段失败的关系跳到另外一段，可是空虚寂寞呢，还会一直存在着。

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