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俗话说的好，凡是有钱的单身汉，总是想讨个老婆的。同理，有能力且经济独立的单身女性也得找个老公。不幸的是，在中国，符合上述条件的，奔三或30出头的女性却很难觅得老公。
SINGLE men in possession of a good fortune, it's said, must be in want of a wife. Like wise, skilled, financially independent single women must need a husband. Unfortunately, in China, husbands are hard to come by for such women in their late 20s and early 30s。
“通常，我和男性约会时会从几个方面来衡量他，”27岁的北京某公司销售经理郝红蕊说，“帅气的外表，宽敞的房子和高档小汽车，这些都很重要。”但是，郝红蕊解释到，婚姻不能仅仅建立在这些条件之上。
"When I date a man, I calculate his worth in points," said Hao Hongrui, a 27-year-old trade manager in Beijing. "A handsome face, a big house and a fancy car are important." But Hao explains, marriage can't be founded only on these qualities。
她曾遇到过物质条件很好的男性，但两人间却毫无爱情可言。因此，也就没有结婚的可能。
She has met people who satisfy all her tangible needs, but there is no love between them. So, there's no real possibility of marriage。
最近，中国新闻社的一则报道称，北京有约50万名年龄在25至50岁之间的女性属于剩女或称3S女性--单身，70年代生人，不知所措。她们中的大多数都拥有一份体面的工作，经济独立。她们希望自己的丈夫同她们水平相当或比她们更为成功。她们渴望爱情，却碍于某些原因而无法恋爱。
A China News Service report recently described the roughly half-million single women aged 25-50 living in Beijing as shengnü (leftover women)， or "3S" women - single, seventies (most shengnü born in the 1970s) and stuck. Most have decent jobs and are financially independent. They expect a husband to be equally as or more successful than they are. They want to fall in love, but for some reason they can't。
中国社会科学院社会学研究所研究员王振宇表示，这些女性之所以单身是因为她们想要找比自己强的另一半。
Wang Zhenyu, a researcher at the Chinese Academy of Social Sciences' sociology institute, says many of these women remain single because they're looking for a partner who is even better than they are。
王振宇还说：“随着年龄的增长，她们的容忍力更差，更不愿妥协。因此，能满足她们要求的男性就变得更少了。”
"As such women grow older, their tolerance drops and they are less willing to compromise," said Wang. "Thus, the number of men who meet their requirements gradually grows smaller."
新浪网6月份的一份调查显示，参与调查的5000名网民中有37.5%的人认为“剩女”嫁不出去的主要原因是过度理想化，总期待找到像白马王子一样的完美男人。
According to a June survey by Sina.com, 37.5 percent of the nearly 5,000 netizens queried consider "looking for a perfect man" the main obstacle that keeps young women single。
“我在寻找一位我真正欣赏的人。我希望他人很聪明，有幽默感而且工作上进，”30岁的高级销售经理李媛说。她的月薪超过2万元。
"I'm looking for someone I really admire. I hope he can be smart, humorous and devoted to his work," said Li Juan, a 30-year-old senior sales manager who says she earns over 20,000 yuan per month。
学者们将这种过度的理想化归咎于传统观念。王振宇说：“中国的传统观念强调一种男性主宰的社会体系。因此，人们认为男人在任何领域都理应比女人优秀。当然了，外表除外。”
Scholars attribute such expectations to tradition. "Traditional Chinese values emphasize a patriarchal social system," said Wang. "Men are supposed to perform better than woman in every area, except appearance."
