2) Evaluate your desire and motivation.
认准所求和动力

People often think they know what they want. The good news is that if you set a goal and work hard, you are likely to achieve it. The bad news is that it might not really be what you want. 人们总是认为自己知道想要什么。好的方面是：如果你设定了一个目标，并且为之努力，你就可能实现。坏的方面是：这个目标也许不是你真正想要的。

Suppose you want to date a girl at the gym. You overheard her say that she likes men with large muscular arms. You set the goal of working extra everyday to achieve bigger than life biceps and triceps. You reach your goal after grueling hours of sweat and pain. In the meantime, she met a guy half the size as you, and who was available because he was not in the gym 12 hours a day. 假设你想和一位健身房的MM约会。你偷听到这位MM说她喜欢手臂肌肉壮的男性。于是你设定了每天额外运动来获得更大肌肉的目标。在不知流了多少汗、吃了多少苦后实现了目标。与此同时，她却看上了比你小一半的男人，那个人有时间，因为（不像你）他不会一天12小时泡在健身房。

You reached your goal of large arms, but set the wrong goal of trying to get a date with a particular girl. Make sure you are really reaching for what you really want in life. You can achieve what you sought and still feel empty inside. 你是达到了让手臂肌肉发达的目标，但是，对于争取要和某个MM约会来说，这个目标设错了。你一定要为生活中真正想要的东西努力。（因为不然的话）你可能会达到了追求的目标而仍感到内心空虚。