Then, the same way, I learned that anger is a waste. It hurts nobody but me. A fit of the sullens got short shrift in our house. It wasn't pulling my weight in the boat. It was spoiling sport. And among seven children it got me nowhere. It might reduce four o'cat to three o'cat, but the game went on just the same, and where was I? Out of it. Better go in and join the group around the piano and forget my grievance. Better still, next time don't fling down my bat in a tantrum; keep my temper, and stay in the game.

于是，我同样也明白了生气于事无补。除了我自己，它伤害不了任何人。在我们家里，闷闷不乐是不会有人搭理你的。尽管不是我的责任，但却会让人觉得扫兴。何况在7个孩子中间生闷气对我并没有好处。没有我，“4只小猫”的游戏变成“3只小猫”，一样可以玩得很好。而我呢？只能被排除在外了。最好的办法就是，忘掉自己的委屈，加入他们，和大家一起围着钢琴玩。还有，最好下次不要再乱发脾气；控制好自己的情绪，继续玩游戏。

Here's a rule thumb that's important, and the older I get, the more important I think it is. When I can do something, and somebody wants me to do it, I have to do it. The great tragedy of life is not to be needed. As long as you are able and willing to do things for people, you will be needed. Of course you are able; and if so, you can't say no. My mother is seventy-seven. In seventy-seven years she has never said no. Today she is so much in demand by thirteen grandchildren and countless neighbors that her presence is eagerly contended for. When I want to see her I have to pretend emergency.

此外，还有一条经验法则同样重要。随着慢慢长大，我也越来越认识到它的重要性。当我有能力做一件事，有人也希望我做时，我就必须去做。不为人所需是人生中最大的悲剧。只要你有能力并愿意为人们做一些事，人们就会需要你。你肯定能够做到，那就不要推辞。我的母亲已经77岁了。但77年来她从未说过“不”字。如今，她的13个孙儿和无数的邻居依然很需要她，希望她能在身边。因此当我想见她时，不得不假装有紧急的事情。