I have ever had abundant love experiences. My most impressive perception is that it is the best to be single.
我曾经有过丰富的感情经历。最深的体会是,不爱的时候状态最好。
When you love someone, all your attention is focused on him. You will be missing him, expecting to see him, worrying about him and feeling sad about him. In all, your whole heart has been dedicated to him without the least to yourself. All your happiness and sorrows stem from external factors, while all your giving and expectation will oftentimes result in desperation. The bigger your anticipation, the deeper your desperation.
当爱一个人的时候,你的心思都在他的身上,想着他,盼着他,担心是他,发愁是他,期望是他,失望是他,一颗心都在他人身上时,便没有了自己。你的喜怒哀乐,都是因为外在的原因。而一切的付出和期待,往往得到的是失望。期望越大,失望也越大。
When you are single, you will concentrate on yourself. You will arrange your dressing and dietary in a healthy manner and do whatever you like without considering others’ views. Only at that time will you feel downright relieved mentally and live entirely for yourself.
不爱的时候,你的心思才收回到自己身上,为了自己的健康去合理地衣食住行,为了自己的美丽随心所欲地打扮,想成什么样就什么样,想做什么人就做什么人,不必考虑他人的眼光。这时你才能感觉到彻底的心灵上的自由和解放,完全为自己的喜好而活着。