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1. Say “thank you.” Expressing gratitude to others for the things that they do for us makes them feel appreciated. That makes them more likely to do good work for us in the future. We then know we can count on them. It’s a win-win. So make a New Year’s resolution to actively thank people for a job well done – no matter how busy you may be.
1. 说“谢谢”。向他人为我们做的事表达感谢会让他们觉得被欣赏。这让他们在将来更愿意帮我们，成为我们的依靠。这是双赢的局面。所以不管你有多忙，也要在新年许下“积极感谢别人完成工作”的愿望。
2. Give out compliments. When we compliment others, we can build rapport and create a meaningful connection with them. But they won’t have this effect unless they are genuine. If we actually feel jealous, for example, our compliments will fall flat. Others will notice, through our non-verbal communication (such as a fake smile or lack of eye contact). Remember that elevating others does not mean bringing ourselves down–whether or not we are on the same team.
2. 表达赞美。当我们赞扬别人时，可以和他们建立融洽的关系和有用的联系。但切记，除非出自真心实意，不然是不会起效的。比如我们实际上很嫉妒，那赞美就达不到预期效果。别人也会通过你的非语言信号注意到（比如假笑或缺少眼神交流）你是否在真诚地表达赞美。要记住鼓舞别人并不是贬低自己——不管你们是否在同一团队中工作。
3. Celebrate successes. Take the time to learn about accomplishments and special moments. Then offer hearty congratulations. We all like to feel important.
3. 庆祝成功。花时间了解别人的成就或特殊时刻。然后真心实意地祝贺。我们都喜欢被别人认为重要。
4. Share information. Give people information that helps improve their health, finances, relationships or other areas in their lives. You will have the satisfaction of doing a good deed, and someday you may receive one in return.
4. 分享信息。给别人提供促进他们健康、财政、关系或其他方面的信息。做好事也会让你有一种满足感，而且某天你也会收到回报。
5. Offer recommendations. Putting in a good word can help people in their personal or professional lives. Be willing to recommend others, and they will likely speak highly of you, too.
5. 提供推荐。说点好话能给别人的个人或职业生活提供帮助。愿意推荐他人的话，他们对你的评价也会很高。
6. Show you care. Communicate to others your concern and support. Sometimes we may not have relevant information or resources to help them, but just showing that we care can be a valuable gift in itself.
6. 表现关心。向别人传达你的关心和支持。有时我们可能没有能帮助他人的相关信息，但光表现出关心就是珍贵的礼物了。
7. Be respectful. Showing respect for others is a great gift. When people feel respected, they become engaged, open and receptive to what we have to say, rather than getting defensive. And chances are the respect will be mutual.
7. 尊重他人。对他人尊重是一份很好的礼物。当别人感到被尊重，他们会变得投入、开放，会更容易接受我们说的话，而不是充满了防御心。尊重也是互相的。
8. Smile. The first thing we typically hear when someone takes our photograph is, “smile.” That’s because a genuine smile has extremely attractive properties that people want to preserve and treasure. When we smile with sincerity, we transmit a visual image associated with kindness, warmth, happiness, approachability and trustworthiness. While a smile attracts others, a frown makes them want to run the other way.
8. 微笑。当别人给我们拍照时，他们说的第一句话一般是“笑一下”。那是因为真诚的微笑是吸引人的财富，人们希望看到微笑、珍藏微笑。当我们真心微笑时，我们传达出了与“和善、温暖、幸福、可接近和值得信任”相关的视觉信号。微笑能吸引他人，而皱眉只会让别人退避三舍。
9. Make people laugh. It causes people to laugh and relax, and someone who is relaxed is more capable of understanding us. And using humor can make the things we do and say more memorable. People tend to remember things that make them laugh.
9. 让别人笑。让别人笑和放松，放松的人更能理解我们。同时，幽默感让我们的所言所行更能被别人记住。人们更容易记住让他们发笑的事情。
10. Pay attention. Many of us listen to others, just waiting for our turn to speak. It’s a gift to focus exclusively on the needs and interests of the other person. In fact, it’s the ultimate example of giving without expecting anything in return.
10. 注意他人。我们很多人听别人讲话只是为了等轮到自己讲话的机会。能专心注意别人的需要和兴趣是很好的礼物。实际上，这是“付出不求回报“最好的例子。
