1. No One Is Going to Fix You
没人会来拯救你
If you are waiting for a knight in shining armor to gallop into your life and heal your broken heart, you will be waiting forever. The only person who can help you is yourself. Be happy for the other people in your life, but do not become dependent on them for happiness unlike you like to be on a never-ending emotional roller-coaster that is far beyond the realm of your control.
如果你还在期盼白马王子帅气闯入你的生活、呵护你受伤的心灵,那你只能永远等待下去了。能够救你的人只有你自己。你可以为生活中有人陪伴而开心,但不要因此把幸福完全托付给他们;否则,你的情绪会像不停歇的过山车,永远无法自我控制。
Are you alone? No, far from it. But no one is going to fix you, so it is in your best interest to take personal responsibility for your own life. When you do that, you’ll discover you are more powerful than you ever thought possible.
还是一个人?哈,更残酷的是,不会有谁来拯救你。所以,你最好还是为自己负起责任吧。只有这样,你才会发现自己变得愈加坚强。
2. Life Will Never Be Perfect
生活并不完美
If you are waiting for the “right” time to do something — pursue self-employment, begin a fitness plan, dive into the dating pool, or move to a new town — you’re going to be waiting forever. There is no such thing as a “right” time to do anything. This reaction is based on your fear-of-change, plain and simple.
如果你还在等待“最佳时机”去做某事——诸如创业、健身、恋爱或搬去新城市,那你也只能这么等待下去了。世上根本就没有所谓的“最佳时机”,你之所以这么想,完全是因为自己害怕改变,只想简单舒服混日子罢了。
If you keep waiting for that mysterious “perfect time to act” (please tell me, when have you ever experienced such a thing?), this means you will never actually have to take action and confront your fear. Do the scary thing. You will be so glad you did.
如果你一直在等待传说中的“最佳行动时机”(请问,你可曾真正亲身经历过呢?),那你永远都不会直面内心恐惧并拿出行动来。现在就去做“可怕的”事情吧!相信你做了以后绝不会后悔。
3. You Might Fail (a Lot)
你可能会失败(很多次)
If you attempt to achieve an ambitious new goal, then it is possible that you will fall on your face while pursuing said goal. Welcome to reality. It’s time to change your thinking about failure.
如果你雄心万丈想征服新目标,那你极可能在努力的过程中摔得鼻青脸肿。回到现实,改变自己对失败的看法吧。
It is not a big, bad thing that you should be frightened of. Failure is a learning opportunity and nothing more. If successful people quit pursuing their goal after failing the first time they tried something new, then there would be approximately zero successful people ever. There is no such thing as a “hole-in-one” in life. Do you want to know how many times I’ve failed? Over a hundred.
失败并不是多么糟糕透顶的大事,你完全没必要害怕。失败只是一次学习的机会罢了。如果成功的人因刚开始尝试新鲜事物遭遇挫折而放弃梦想,那他们很可能就一事无成,何谈成功二字!生活中从来就没有“一发即中” 这回事。你知道我失败过多少次吗?上百次。
The only reason I’ve managed to accomplish anything is because I am a firm believer in continuous improvement. If you fail in something, distance from the event for a day or two, because agonizing over the problem will not make it go away (and will make it a lot worse). Read a good book, catch up with some friends you haven’t seen in a long time, or go on a nature hike. You will be able to look at the issue with a fresh perspective. After you have done that, ask yourself: “Why didn’t this work out and how can I do better next time?”
如果说我确实有所成就的话,那也只是因为我坚信不断尝试就会成功。遇到挫折时,你可以暂时把问题放一放,一味纠结不仅无济于事,有时反倒使情况更糟。先去读一本好书、见见久未谋面的好友或去户外骑游一番;再回头看待问题,你或许会感到柳暗花明。这样做后,别忘了多加反省:“为什么这个方法会奏效?下次能不能做得更好呢?”
This process very well could repeat itself several times depending on the nature of your goal, but if you keep making a firm commitment to continuously improve yourself, you will develop so much that the only option left is success. Consistent hustle always wins.
看你定的是什么目标,这种方法可以被反复有效应用。如果你坚定不移地持续提升自己,最后成功肯定非你莫属。孜孜不倦向来无敌。