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When you love someone and they love you back, the high is unbeatable. You could spend all day together, can't get enough of each other, and find yourself saying and doing things you swore you would never do.
当你对某人情意绵绵，他们也对你做出回应之时，热恋便会坚如堡垒。你们会一整天待在一起，毫不腻厌对方，并且还会发现自己说一些和做一些你曾发誓从来都不会去干的事情。
But when things start to change, and you're no longer sure if your partner is still in love with you, the feelings you have for them can begin to feel like a burden.
但是，当事情出现变化，你不再确定你的伴侣是否还对你心存爱意之时，你对他们的感情便开始感觉成为一种负担。
Before you make emotional claims or push your partner away, check and see if the following changes are happening in your relationship.
在你宣泄情绪或者是劈腿之前，来检查看看如下的变化是否在你们的关系当中正在上演。
1.They go MIA
1.玩失踪
If you used to text your partner throughout the day and rarely spent an evening without them, you'll notice when they start replying to your messages an hour later with short, to-the-point responses and make up excuses for why they can't hang out tonight.
如果你过去经常给你的伴侣全天候地发信息，很少会一个人过夜，你就会注意到当他们开始在一个小时之后回复你一些简明扼要的信息，且编造理由解释为什么今晚不能陪你。
They may blame it on a busy work week or the need for alone time, but if they're head-over-heels in love with you the truth is that they'd make time to call, text, and spend time with you — even on the busiest of days.
他们可能会说这周工作很忙，或者是需要独处的时间，但是如果他们对你一心一意，事情就会是他们挤出时间给你打电话、发短信、与你共度时光——即便是在最繁忙的日子里。
If your partner starts to go MIA regularly, it may be a sign that they're trying to distance themselves from the relationship.
如果你的伴侣开始经常玩失踪，那么这就是他们试图与你划清关系的信号。
2.Talk of the future stops
2.不愿谈及未来
When you're a couple in love, you'll spend hours daydreaming together, imagining what life will be like once you finish law school or how you want to celebrate the holidays.
当你们还是一对恋爱中的情侣之时，你们就会花上数个小时在一起幻想，想象当你们从法学院毕业会过上怎样的生活，或者是想要如何度过假期。
You may even delve into big events like where you want to settle down, how many kids you want, and what your wedding would be like.
你们甚至还有可能钻研一些大事，比如：去哪儿定居，生多少个小孩，婚礼会是怎样的。
Talk of the future is common when you're infatuated and in love, but when your partner starts avoiding the topic out of nowhere, you may have reason to worry.
谈及未来是迷失在恋爱中的情侣的普遍现象，但是当你的伴侣开始对这类话题避而不谈之时，你就有理由去担心了。
If they no longer see you in their future, they'll try to avoid the topic as talking about it will seem hollow and pointless.
如果他们在未来不会看到你，他们就会试图避免这类话题，因为谈论这些看起来太空洞也没多大意义了。
3.Don't care enough to fight
3.不在意争吵
Many people see constant fighting as a sign that love is lost, but the true sign of dying love is when your partner doesn't care enough to fight.
很多人觉得经常吵架是爱已不在的标志，但是逝去的爱情真正的标志是你伴侣不再在意争吵。
4.Physical contact declines
4.肢体接触减少
When your partner has moved on emotionally, you'll notice a change in your physical relationship.
当你的伴侣对你的感情增加，你就会注意到你们的肢体关系发生的一个变化。
Not only will your sex life die out, but he or she may avoid cuddling after sex and foreplay. The changes may also show up in the way they treat you in public.
你们的性生活不仅会消失，他（她）在性爱、前戏之后都有可能会避免拥抱。这种变化还会出现在他们在公共场合对待你的方式之中。
5.Nitpicking takes over
5.对你挑刺
When love is lost so is the infatuation. They may suddenly be disgusted by the very things they used to find endearing.
当爱情已不再，迷恋也就荡然无存。他们可能会突然觉得他们曾经认为十分讨人喜欢的事物很恶心。
Maybe they thought the way you sneezed was "adorable," until one day your partner claims it is annoyingly loud.
也许他们以前认为你打喷嚏的方式"十分可爱"，直到有一天会觉得这是十分恼人的噪声。
If your partner starts nitpicking everything about you, it may be a sign that they're falling out of love with you.
如果你的伴侣开始对你的一切挑刺，这可能就是他们不再爱你的一个标志。
