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1.) Let them know that you're always there for them
1.) 让他们知道，你永远在那儿等着他/她
When you're being pushed away by someone you love, it's possible that they're doing this because they don't think that you'll accept them if they tell you what's happening in their life. Or maybe they're worried about how you're going to react and don't want to upset you. Or maybe they're just not ready to share whatever it is yet.
被心爱之人推开？他/她这样做很有可能是因为--他们担心若你得知他们的真实生活，你可能不会接受他们。或者是因为他们担心你得知'真相'的反应，他们不想让你失望。又或者，他们只是还未做好与他人分享这一切的准备。
Whatever their reason for pushing you away, it's best not to get really upset. Sure, that might be your first instinct, and you might want to do that, but it's probably not the best idea.
无论他们因为何种原因而推开你，都不要伤心难过。当然，被推开后你的第一直觉就是难过，你也的确想这样，但或许这并不是一个好主意。
Instead, let them know that you're always there for them. This will help them become more comfortable with talking to you about whatever is happening when they decide that it's the right time.
相反，被拒之后你应该告诉他们，你会永远在那儿等着他/她。于他们而言，这是莫大的帮助。他们觉得和你聊天非常舒服；如果时间合适，他们愿意告诉你真实的生活情况。
2.) Do some little things that will be really helpful
2.) 做一些有益的小事
When someone that you care about is going through a rough time (which is definitely what's going on if they're pushing you away), they might not be taking care of themselves the way that they typically do. This could mean that they're forgetting to eat, they're eating only junk food or take-out, or they're not getting enough sleep or going to the gym on a regular basis.
当你所关心的人正经历一场困难时期时（如果他们拒绝了你，肯定是因为发生了一些不好的事情），他们可能不会像往常一样好好照顾自己。他们可能忘了吃饭、只吃垃圾食品或外卖、睡眠不足、不会定期去健身房等。
When you're being pushed away by someone you love, it can be helpful to do some little things for them. You can meal prep a few ingredients for them so they have healthy lunches to bring to the office and don't have to worry or think about that. You can drop off a coffee at their work if you are in the area or maybe you both work from home and so it's easy for you to bring them their favorite latte. You can do their laundry and clean up the kitchen or do a chore.
被心爱之人推开时，为他们做些暖心的小事会带来不一样的结果。你可以为他们准备饭菜，这样他们就能带着营养午餐去公司、无需为吃饭发愁。在他们公司附近时，你也可以为他/她送上一杯咖啡。又或者你们都在家办公，那可以为他/她送上最爱的拿铁。你可以为他/她洗衣服、打扫厨房或做些家务。
Anything that can lighten the load for them and help them feel less stressed out will be a huge help. They'll know that you're there for them and they'll appreciate the help… even if they don't say it right away because they're really upset right now.
任何可以帮他们减轻负担、让他们感觉没那么大压力的事情都帮了他们大忙。他们会知道你就在那里陪着他/她，他们也会感激你的帮忙--即使他们现在因为伤心并没有对你表达感激之情。
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