Step 1: Assess your relationship
Assess your time together. Every relationship evolves differently, but it’s
best to wait at least two months before saying the “L” word.
第一步:评价你们的关系
评价你们在一起度过的时光。每种关系演变都不同,但是最好等待至少2个月后再向对方表白。
Step 2: Plan ahead
Think ahead to plan something special such as a night out, dinner at home, or
ice cream in the park and seize the moment when it feels right — but don’t force it.
第二步:提前计划
提前计划些特别的,比如晚上出去约会,在家里吃晚饭或是在公园吃冰激凌,当感觉合适的时候就要抓住时机,但是不要勉强。
Step 3: Take a risk
Rely on your inner strength and work up the courage to let the other person
know how you feel — and be prepared to hear that they might not feel the same way.
第三步:大胆尝试
靠你内在的勇气,鼓起勇气让对方知道你的感觉——但要准备好对方可能感觉和你不一样。
Step 4: Give the person time
Give the other person time to adjust and think about it, and tell them
directly to not answer until they are ready.
第四步:给对方一些时间。
给对方一些调整和考虑的时间,告诉对方等他(她)想好了再回答。
Tip:Be prepared to wait hours or even days for an answer. Don’t rush the
other person.
小贴士:要准备好等几小时或几天才能得到回复。不要催促对方。
Step 5: Beware of digital traps
Beware of using either e-mail or text messages to say “I love you” for the
first time. While they may feel safer, they are too impersonal.
第四步:要小心数字陷阱
要小心不要用电子邮件或是短信来第一次向对方说“我爱你”。这样做可能感觉很安全,但是很不正式。
Step 6: Be creative
Be creative when it comes to saying “I love you.” Signs, notes, and other
nonverbal cues can work wonderfully if you keep them personal and genuine.
第五步:要有创意。
当说“我爱你”时要有创意。如果你能将手势,便条和其他的无声暗示配合起来使用,使之具有个性和创意,那会达到很好的效果。