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【听力文段】mp3

Selective vulnerability is opening up while still

prioritizing stability and psychological safety,

both for you and for your colleagues. Luckily, anyone can learn to be selectively

vulnerable,with practice.

Here are four ways to get started.

First, flag your feelings without becoming

emotionally leaky. Bad moods are contagious, and even if you're not vocalizing what

you're feeling, chances are your body language or your expressions are a dead giveaway. So if you are crossing your arms or hammering on your keyboard, your coworkers are going to know you're upset. And if you don't say anything, they might start to think it's about them and get worried. So if you are reacting to a non-work-related event, so traffic for example, just flag it. You don't need to go into detail. You can say something as simple as "I'm having a bad morning. It has nothing to do with you."Now if it's a work-related event that's causing you to feel strong emotions, that brings us to point number two.

Try to understand the need behind

your emotion, and then address that need. If you suddenly start to find everyone around

you irritating, sit back and reflect on that. And it might be that you're irritable because

you're anxious, and you're anxious because you're worried about hitting a looming deadline. And in that case, you can go back to your team to address that need and say something like, "I want to make sure l get everything done ahead of the deadline. Can you help me put together a realistic plan

to do that?"If you're thinking of sharing, try and put yourself in the other person's shoes. So if what you're about to say would help you

feel more supported and better understand the situation, then go ahead and share it. But if it gives you any kind of pause, you might want to leave it out.

And finally, read the room and provide a

path forward. If everyone on your team has been pulling long hours, and you notice that one of your colleagues seems particularly deflated or anxious, you can acknowledge that and show some empathy, but then try to give them something actionable

that they could hold on to. And in this case, you could suggest that you go to your manager, and ask that your weekly meeting be pushed back a day so you both have more time to work. You're showing you're invested in

their success, but also that you care about their well-being.

When we can be honest about what we feel, and freely suggest ideas, make mistakes and just not have to hide every piece of who we are, we're much more likely to stay at the companyfor a long time. We're also happier and more productive. So take a moment to reflect on the emotional expression that you bring to work each day. And if you are prone to oversharing, try editing. And if you're a little bit more reserved, look for moments when you can open up to your colleagues and be a bit vulnerable. And chances are, there will be a big difference in how people respond to you. And selective vulnerability might just become

one of your most valuable tools.

【单词短语】

1. contagious

2. vocalize

3. giveaway

4. upset

5. non-work-related event

6. flag

7 deadline

8. leave it out

9. read the room

10. pull long hours

【地道美语，长句精练】

1. First, flag your feelings without becoming emotionally leaky.

2. I want to make sure l get everything done ahead of the deadline.

3. Read the room and provide a path forward

【课堂纠音，上节连读】

1、This often leads us to mistakenly equate professionalism with being stoic or even cold.

2、We feel connected to the people around us.

3、So it's about time that we learn how to embrace emotion at work.