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But maybe the worst reason to feel lonely is rejection.
但也许导致孤独感的最糟糕的原因就是被拒绝。
For example, friends can become enemies.
例如，朋友可能会变成敌人。
They may argue over something small.
他们可能会为一些小事争吵。
And the situation can get worse.
情况可能会变得更糟。
Later, one friend may apologise.
之后，一个朋友可能会道歉。
This friend wants peace.
这个朋友想要和平。
But the other friend may reject the offer of peace.
但另一个朋友可能会拒绝和平的提议。
This person rejects the friendship too.
这个人也拒绝友谊。
This kind of rejection hurts.
这种拒绝很伤人。
Anne is a girl who experienced rejection from her school friends. She said:
安妮是一个在学校遭到过朋友排挤的女孩。她说：
“The time between our studies was the worst.
“我们在课间的处境是最糟糕的。
A group of girls used to sit under the trees.
一群女孩过去常常坐在树下。
At first the girls were nice to me. I was new.
起初，这群女孩对我很好。我是新来的。
So I was thankful that they let me be a part of their group.
所以我很感激她们让我成为她们小组的一员。
Then, they wanted me to give them some money to buy cigarettes.
然后，她们想让我给她们一些钱去买香烟。
I said I did not smoke cigarettes.
我说我不抽烟。
And that is when it started.
这就是它开始的时候。
They persuaded other girls in my classroom to stop talking to me.”
她们说服我班里的其他女孩不要再和我说话。”
Anne had a bad experience.
安妮有过一次糟糕的经历。
She needed help to get through the situation.
她需要帮助来渡过难关。
Rick Warren wants people like Anne, Mrs. Singh, and Yangsheng Guo to find help.
里克·沃伦希望诸如安妮、辛格夫人和郭阳生之类的人能够寻求帮助。
First he suggests that people use their time wisely.
首先，他建议人们明智地利用时间。
During lonely periods people may not take care of themselves.
在孤独的时候，人们可能不会照顾自己。
They may not eat enough food.
他们可能没有吃足够的食物。
They may not exercise.
他们可能不锻炼。
And they may not care how they look. Rick says:
他们可能并不在乎自己的外表。里克说：
“Resist the desire to do nothing. Loneliness can make you paralysed - frozen by fear.
“抵制什么都不做的想法。孤独会让你瘫痪，因为恐惧而麻木。
Do what you can do to fight loneliness.”
尽你所能与孤独作斗争。”
Part of fighting loneliness is to try new things.
战胜孤独的方法之一就是尝试新事物。
Some people join local interest groups.
有些人加入当地的兴趣小组。
Other people learn new skills.
其他人学习新技能。
They may learn how to use a computer, how to cook or how to speak another language.
他们可能会学习如何使用计算机、如何烹饪或如何说另一种语言。
And some people may work a few hours a week for free - they volunteer.
有些人可能每周免费工作几个小时——他们去做志愿者。
This way they get out of the house.
这样他们才能走出房子。
And they can be around other people.
他们可以和其他人相处。
