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1. Face your fears. But do it in small steps.
This is one of the best ways to overcome fears and get out of your comfort zone. What holds us back in our zone of comfort is often a fear or that facing that fear straight on might be overwhelming. This is a solution to those two problems. It allows you to stretch your comfort zone slowly making it less uncomfortable and frightening.
If you’re for instance nervous socially you might not feel able to ask people out on dates right away. The fear of being rejected and that others might think less of you if you get turned down can make many of us feel unable to ask the question.
So you take small steps instead. Steps like first just saying hi to people. Or starting to talk more to people online via forums and Instant Messaging. And then trying to be more involved in conversations at work or in school to exercise your conversation-muscles.
I guess one could say that you gradually de-sensitize yourself to social situations or whatever you are afraid of. Or, seeing it in a more motivating light, that you are building courage and expanding your comfort zone in this part of your life (which is something that often seeps over to other areas of life too.)
So, identify your fear. Then make a plan with some smaller steps you can take to gradually lessen your discomfort.
1. 学会逐步面对自己的恐惧
这是克服恐惧且惧摆安逸环境最好的办法。我们一直呆在温室的原因通常就是恐惧，且在直面恐惧的时候会感到害怕。针对上述问题有一个解决的方案，会让你渐渐脱离安逸，且你会觉得安逸不再那么舒服，甚至开始对其感到厌恶。
假如你有社交恐惧，你不敢当即要别人约定好会谈的日期见面，害怕被拒绝，怕被别人看不起，一旦被拒绝也许就再不敢询问问题了。因此你要慢慢克服，开始时可以先和别人打招呼或在网上论坛多和别人聊聊天，发发信息，然后渐渐地开始在工作上和别人多聊天，在学校的时候和别人多进行交谈。
我猜此时肯定会有人对说，你不像以前那样对公共社交场所那么敏感，或你对以前一些你感到恐惧的东西不再那么害怕了，看到你所取得的这些成就就会使你更有前进的动力，此时的你开始有勇气，不再害怕以前你所害怕的事情，你建立和扩大了你的勇气（生活中其他的事情也诸如此）
面对你的恐惧，你必须知道你畏惧的是什么，然后开始指定一些小计划来慢慢减缓不适。
