3. Be appreciative. 欣赏

You can never appreciate your spouse too much. He or she needs to hear how much you admire the way he or she gets the bills paid, organizes the kids' activities, made that tasty shrimp scampi last night, rewired the basement, cleared out three months' worth of old magazines from beside the couch, or got the trash out to the curb just in time for pickup.

再怎么称赞你的爱人都不为过。当他(她)把账单付清,当他(她)组织了一场孩子的活动,当他(她)做完烹制出美味的奶油蒜味虾,或者当他(她)把地下室的电线重新接好,当他(她)把沙发旁积累了三个月的旧杂志清理干净,当他(她)出门倒垃圾正好赶上垃圾车的时候,爱人都需要听到你的赞美之词。