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4. Draw conclusions with evidence:
根据事实得出结论：
Look at the evidence, look at the events, look at patterns and don't base your conclusions on assumptions. For example, don't just assume someone will cheat you because they look like or in some ways act like an ex you didn't get along with. Look at other elements to see if there is any evidence for your assumption.
根据事实得出结论：看看事实，看看事件，看看形式，千万别把结论基于猜想上。比如，不要因为某些人看起来像在骗你或是表现的让你觉得不怎么舒服，就认为他们的确在骗你。看看有没有其他证据能证实你的观点吧。
5. Don't be that individual:
别把事情过分个人化：
The majority of how people interact with you is due to their own personality, strengths, and baggage and does not have as much to do with you. Pay attention to how to differentiate between different interaction signals. For example, instead of immediately getting frustrated because the waitress was a little late attending to you, think that maybe she is having a really tough day or too may tables to take care of.
大部分时候人们如何和你交往都取决于他们的个性、能力和精神状态，和你其实没多大关系。注意如何区分不同的交际信号。比如，与其为迟来的服务生感到生气，不如换位思考，想想他今天心情不好，或者实在是太忙了吧。
6. Don't do “either/or” thinking:
别做选择题
Black and white thinking based on perfectionistic thought is counterproductive. Every time a thought pops up and has words like “should” or “must,” challenge it. For example, instead of saying “this should be done this way,” say something like, “I prefer it this way but I am sure there are other ways to do and am willing to be open.
基于完美的非黑即白想法反而会让你达不到预期的效果。每次出来一个想法，有着类似于“应该”“必须”这样的字眼，那么不妨改变一下吧。比如与其说“应该这么去完成”，不如说“我喜欢这个方法，但是我觉得肯定会有更好的方法能达到我们预期的效果。”
