1. You never really say goodbye
1.你永远不会真正说再见
It is sad, unsettling, and a really uncomfortable feeling to be okay for days, weeks, and years, rarely ever thinking about them or their voice or their face. Then suddenly, bam, there they are again, haunting your thoughts. Making you wish you had tried harder to keep them.
几天几周几年感到悲伤和真的不舒服还好,偶尔还是会想起他们,想起他们的声音或者面容。然后你的感情就突然崩溃了,他们又开始在你的脑海中挥之不去。让你希望自己当时应该更加努力来挽留他们。
Maybe you go into Facebook stalker-mode and try to learn everything that has happened since you last spoke. You tell yourself to just say goodbye and let it go. But I am telling you not to. Remember how this person made you feel. Remember that love.
或许你会去Facebook开启跟踪狂模式,想知道在你们最后一次谈话之后他身边发生的一切。你告诉自己说再见,让感情消散。但是我要告诉你不要这样做。要记住这个人给你的感觉。记住那段爱青。
2. You can love another person
2.你可以爱上另一个人
Rekindle it. Recycle it. Put it into something or someone else. Because if you are capable of loving one person this deeply, you can love another. Do not do yourself the injustice of giving up on love just because one got away. We all lose big fish once in a while. Pick up your tackle box. Move on to the next watering hole.
重新点燃爱情之火。回收你的感情。将你的爱放到其他事情或者其他人身上。因为如果你能深爱上一个人,你也能爱上另一个人。不要因为一段爱情消散不去,就对自己不公平而放弃爱情。我们都会偶尔错失大鱼。拎着你的钓鱼盒,继续到另一个水坑中钓鱼。
3. That rejection prepares you for life
3.拒绝是生活给你准备好的礼物
It sucks, and it hurts. Your heart remembers the initial shock of realizing they are not yours time and time again. But that is okay too. You know why? That rejection prepares you for life.
被拒绝很讨厌,很伤人。你的心里一次次回忆当你意识到他们不是你的时候的最初的震惊。但是这也没什么。你知道为什么。因为拒绝是生活给你准备好的礼物。
You get stronger when you realize that you have survived without the person you thought you couldn’t live without. Then take a look at their life, key to their happiness, and realize that while this person is not with you, they are happy as well.
当你意识到你之前以为没有那个人你就活不下去,但是你却活得很好的时候,你就会变得更加坚强。然后看一下他们的生活,他们幸福的关键,意识到当这个人没有你的时候,他们也依然快乐。