defined as a powerful attraction to perfection shorn of any mature or sufficient understanding of what is required to attain it.
被完美深深地吸引,但是又缺少对如何获得完美成熟和充分的理解。
It isn’t primarily our fault.
这并不全是我们的错。
Without in any way revealing this, or even perhaps being aware of it,
没有任何手段可以揭露这些,我们根本意识不到。
our media edits out billions of unremarkable lives and years of failure, rejection and frustration even in those who do achieve
然而媒体有意剪掉那些其余千千万万平凡的人生和失败,被拒绝,沮丧,这些黑暗面也存在于那些成功的人身上。
in order to serve us up a daily curated selection of peak career moments, which thereby end up seeming not like the violent exceptions they actually are,
媒体的行为是为了选出那些顶尖生涯的时刻,于是它们看起来便不像过高的期望,
but a norm and baseline of achievement.
而是成了一种成就的法则和底线。
It starts to appear as though "everyone" is successful because all those who we happen to hear about really are successes
看起来好像每个人都成功了,因为我们听到的只是成功的故事,
and we have forgotten to imagine the oceans of tears and despair that necessarily surround them.
然而我们忘记了那些围绕着成功的可以积成大海的眼泪和失望。
Our perspective is imbalanced because we know our own struggles so well from the inside,
我们的看法非常失衡,因为我们内心清楚地知道我们的挣扎,
and yet are exposed to apparently pain-free narratives of achievement on the outside.
但是我们每天都在听到那些“无痛”成功的事例。
We cannot forgive ourselves the horrors of our early drafts – largely because we have not seen the early drafts of those we admire.
我们不能坦然对待自己在早期面对的恐惧,这很大程度上是因为我们没有看见那些大师早期承受的痛苦。