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You see, there is a lot of belief... People believe that high expectations naturally lead to disappointment.
有很多种信念……人们相信高期望自然地会导致失望
So... high expectations lead to disappointment. And it sounds right.
所以……高期望导致失望。这听起来是对的
I mean, this is the formula that was written in the 19th century by William James.
这就是威廉·詹姆斯在19世纪写下的公式
He said that self-esteem is equal to our success over pretensions. In other words, our achievement...
他说自尊等于我们的成功除以抱负，换言之就是，我们的成就……
how much we succeed, how much we achieve over what we pretend or what we aspire to, what our goals are.
我们有多成功，我们取得了多少除以我们假装或期望所能取得的，我们的目标
In other words, if we have high expectations, high pretensions, we are much more likely to hurt our self-esteem.
换言之，如果我们有很高的期望，很高的抱负，我们就有更大的可能伤害自己的自尊
For example, let's say my aspiration, my pretension, my expectation is to make 4 thousand dollars a month.
例如，比如说我的渴求，我的抱负，我的期望是一个月挣4千美元
Again this... I just throw in a numeric example here because it's easier to understand.
重申一下……我只是举了个数字化的例子，这样便于理解
Let's say my hope is to make 4 thousand dollars a month.
让我们假设我的希望是一个月挣4000美元。
That's my pretension. But in fact what I end up making is 2 thousand dollars a month.
那是我的抱负，但实际上结果我一个月挣到了2000美元
