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Signs you are not living for yourself

你不是为自己而活的迹象

It is very difficult to say "no" to others

对别人说“不”是非常困难的

Sometimes, you may feel that saying "no" or rejecting someone's request will make them feel like you don't care for them. Therefore, agreeing to do what others want is sometimes a safe choice to help you maintain a relationship, even though there are times when you don't have the time or the ability to help them.

有时候，你可能会觉得说“不”或拒绝某人的请求会让他们觉得你不关心他们。因此，同意做别人想做的事有时是帮助你维持一段关系的安全选择，即使有时你没有时间或能力去帮助他们。

Not stopping there, you sometimes even disagree to do things that you personally do not like or things that you think are wrong. This seems simple but can cause many big problems. They prove that you are putting the thoughts of others above your own. Some people may take advantage of it and "manipulate" you to do what they want even if it's wrong, because they know that you won't be able to say no to others.

不止于此，有时你甚至会不同意做一些你个人不喜欢或你认为是错误的事情。这看起来很简单，但却会导致很多大问题。它们证明你把别人的想法放在你自己的之上。有些人可能会利用它，“操纵”你去做他们想做的事，即使这是错的，因为他们知道你不会对别人说不。

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