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How Smart People Deal with People They Don’t Like
如何巧妙应对讨厌的人？

They accept that they are not going to like everyone.

接受并承认自己不会喜欢所有人的事实

Sometimes we get caught in the trap of thinking that we are nice people. We think that we are going to like everyone we interact with—even when that’s not going to happen. It’s inevitable you will encounter difficult people who oppose what you think. Smart people know this. They also recognize that conflicts or disagreements are a result of differences in values.

有时候我们会陷入困境，因为我们想成为友好的人。我们天真地认为我们可以喜欢身边的所有人，即使这是不可能发生的事情。你会不可避免地遇到一些难缠的人，他们会反对你的观点。但是聪明的人深谙这一事实。他们清楚地认识到冲突和争执是价值观不同的结果。

That person you don’t like is not intrinsically a bad human. The reason you don’t get along is because you have different values, and that difference creates judgment. Once you accept that not everyone will like you, and you won’t like everyone because of a difference in values, the realization can take the emotion out of the situation. That may even result in getting along better by agreeing to disagree.

你不喜欢的人也许本质上并不坏。你没法和他相处的原因是因为你们有着不同的价值观，价值观的差异造成了你们之间的鸿沟。你接受不是每一个人都喜欢你这一事实，同样道理，你也不会喜欢身边所有的人。价值观的不同，会把你从想象中的美好世界带回到现实世界。承认差异的存在，会让你与周围的人相处得更好。

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