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How Smart People Deal with People They Don’t Like
如何巧妙应对讨厌的人？
They treat those they don’t like with civility.
恭敬礼貌地对待不喜欢的人
Whatever your feelings are for someone, that person will be highly attuned to your attitude and behavior, and will likely reflect it back to you. If you are rude to them, they will likely throw away all decorum and be rude to you too. The onus, therefore, is on you to remain fair, impartial, and composed.
无论你对他人怀有何种情绪，对方往往会根据你的态度和行为来调节自己的状态，从而产生与你相同的情感。例如，如果你对他们粗鲁蛮横，他们就会抛弃所有的礼节，用粗鲁蛮横来回应你。因此，你要时刻保持公平公正、沉着冷静。
“Cultivating a diplomatic poker face is important. You need to be able to come across as professional and positive,”says Ben Dattner, an organizational psychologist. This way you won’t stoop to their level or be sucked into acting the way they do.
They treat those they don’t like with civility.
Ben Dattner是一位组织心理学家，同时也是《责备游戏》一书的作者，他认为：“保持喜怒不形于色很重要。除此之外，还要始终保持职业化和积极的状态。”这样你就不会卑躬屈膝，也不会陷入听别人使唤的状态。
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