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Divorce can be extremely difficult, but as the process is finalized it can be extremely peaceful . . . or at the least, even in the midst of the stress and strain, it can be a positive event. For many people, the toughest part is in the first two stages: the first is when you are deciding whether to divorce or not. The decision to divorce can be harder than the divorce itself, as you're filled with anxiety and sadness. The second stage is the separation process in which both parties begin to cut ties.
离婚可能非常困难，但随着过程最终确定下来，离婚也会非常平静……或至少，甚至在压力和紧张中，离婚会是件正能量的事。对很多人而言，最艰难的部分就是头两个阶段：首先是决定离婚与否。离婚的决定可能比离婚本身更艰难，因为你会充满焦虑和悲伤。第二阶段就是双方开始断绝关系的分开过程。
Divorce shouldn't be considered trivial or an easy way out of a marriage, because more times than not it takes immense bravery to divorce and move forward with your life. But once you're over the tough part, there are so many reasons divorce can bring you happiness.
人们不该认为离婚是件小事，也不该认为离婚是脱离婚姻的简单方式，因为大多数时候，离婚并开始新的生活是需要巨大勇气的。但一旦度过了艰难的部分，有很多理由告诉你：离婚也能给你带来快乐。
1. No More Doubt
1. 不再怀疑
That period when we were deciding whether to divorce or not was so hard. It was full of anxiety, sadness, confusion, and pain. I can't express enough how difficult that period was for me and, I am sure, my ex. Making the decision to divorce was hard because we had invested years together and had a child. My divorce made me happier and, I am sure, him as well, simply because the decision was made and we could move forward.
我们决定离婚与否的那段时间是非常艰难的。当时我们十分焦虑、悲伤、困惑和痛苦。我无法表达那段时间对我和我的前任来说是多么的艰难。做出离婚的决定特别困难，因为我们在一起很多年了，而且我们还有一个孩子。但离婚让我和他都更快乐了，因为我们做出了离婚的决定，并继续了新的生活。
2. Knowing What to Look For
2. 明白自己想要什么
My ex and I are very different, and as time went on, those differences became more apparent. My divorce made me happier because I knew I could make the right choice for me in terms of picking a partner whose values best reflected mine. I don't think I understood before I got married how important it would be to have both significant common ground and a matching worldview in my lifetime partner.
我的前任和我非常不同，随着时间的流逝，这些差异愈来愈明显。我的离婚让我更快乐，因为在挑选和我有相同价值观的伴侣方面，我知道我能做出正确的选择。我想在我结婚前我并不明白与人生伴侣有重要的共同点以及相吻合的世界观是多么重要。
3. Reconnecting With Myself
3. 重新认识我自己
Typically, as people start to retreat from a marriage, the criticism is at an all-time high. There were things about me that my ex didn't like or didn't appreciate, yet they weren't things I could change in the long run. Being single and reconnecting with who I am and what I am made me much happier. Honestly, I needed to build my self-esteem, and that's exactly what these past three years single have done.
通常当人们离婚后，批评声会一直不断。我身上有些东西是我前任不喜欢或不欣赏的，但长久而言，这些事情却不是我能够改变的。单身后我重新认识我自己，我是谁，我是什么，这让我更快乐了。说实话，我需要建立自尊心，而过去三年的单身时光我也的确变得有自尊了。
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