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KNOW THYSELF
认识你自己
"Know thyself" is one of the oldest, wisest maxims in the book. It helps in every area of life, but it also helps in relationships.
"认识你自己"是书本上最古老、最智慧的格言之一。它有助于生活的方方面面，但它也能帮助你的感情。
In this arena specifically, longtime singles may have something to teach longtime-coupled folks. In getting to know yourself intimately as full-fledged adults, singletons may inadvertently set themselves up to have better long-term relationships later in life. They know who they are, where they are going, and how to care for themselves emotionally and physically.
在感情方面，常年单身的人或能给恋人们提出一些建议。为了熟悉自己是什么样的成年人，单身人士可能会在不经意间为他们以后的生活建立更好的长久恋情。他们了解真实的自己、知道自己要去哪儿、知道如何照顾自己（身心照顾）。
Coupled partners can hone these skills, too. You can absolutely take solo trips, make friends you don't share with your significant other, or set up individual goals for personal growth, so you return to your relationship more rejuvenated than before-and keep resentment at bay, which can often build up over time if you adopt too many of your partner's lifestyles and desires. Even if you're happily coupled or married, you should still take a page from the single playbook.
恋人也可以磨炼这些技能。你完全可以单独旅行、结交一些另一半不认识的朋友、或者为自身成长设定个人目标，这样你就能更有活力--不再愤怒，如果你在很大程度上受到了另一半生活习惯和欲望的影响，那么随着时间的推移，怨恨是会慢慢堆积的。即使你们的婚姻幸福美满，你也应该看看单身人士给出的建议。
GO ON DATES. REAL, INTERESTING DATES.
去约会，真正的、有趣的约会。
I know it's tempting to curl up on the couch with Netflix and takeout, but put in the effort once in a while. Go on real, honest-to-goodness dates with your partner. There's a reason bonding happens so quickly when you're newly dating. You see your romantic interest in new situations. Plus, sides of that person you never knew existed come to the forefront. If you're coupled, going on dates-a weekend trip, a new activity-can remind you of qualities in your partner you don't commonly see. That's a huge turn-on.
我知道，蜷缩在沙发上看着电视、吃着外卖十分诱人，但是偶尔折腾一下吧。和另一半来一次真正的、诚实的约会。开始约会的时候，你们的关系发展很快，这是有一定道理的。你们在新的环境下谈情说爱。另外，约会对象身上你不知道的另一面也会展现出来。如果你们已经是一对了，那约会--一场周末之旅、一项新的活动--会让你记起另一半身上你不常见的品质。可真撩人啊！
SPEND TIME GETTING TO KNOW YOURSELF INTIMATELY
抽时间了解自己
When you're single, you spend a lot of time on your own, focusing exclusively on your own needs and wants. While it's great to integrate another's desires into your life plan, you never want to lose yourself in a relationship. If you've started to lose sight of your own wishes, try taking a few hours a week for yourself. Schedule them out after the kids go to sleep or while your partner is at work. Journal, read, meditate and reflect on how to improve yourself-and your life as a whole, not just your relationship.
单身的时候，很多时间都是一个人度过，专注于自己的需求和欲望。虽然把另一个人的欲望融入自己的生活计划是件好事，但也千万不要在谈恋爱的时候失去自我。如果你已经开始忽视自己的愿望，那就试着每周给自己留几个小时。在孩子睡觉之后或者另一半工作的时候，留点时间给自己。看看杂志、读读书、冥想、思考如何提高自己--以及自己的人生，不仅仅局限于你的恋情。
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