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The second C represents communication.
第二个C代表沟通。
Now communication is key.
现在沟通是关键。
To counter the messages that society tells boys to constrict their emotions,
为了反驳这个告诉男孩们要抑制情绪的社会，
my school practices a variety of communication methods, both intrapersonally and interpersonally.
我的学校会练习多种沟通方式，包括内省和人际交流。
Now intrapersonally is how you communicate with yourself, and interpersonally is how you communicate with others.
内省是你与自己沟通的方式，人际关系是你与他人沟通的方式。
One example of our intrapersonal communication methods is
举例一个我们练习自省的方法，
we'll have students arrive at their desks at the beginning of the day.
我们会在一天的开始让学生坐在他们的桌前。
They'll close their eyes, breathe evenly for about a minute
他们会闭上眼睛，均匀呼吸大约一分钟，
so they can just check in with themselves, see how they're doing, what they're thinking, how they're feeling.
这样他们就可以检查自己，看看自己怎么样，在想什么，感觉如何。
It allows them to put a frame around their thoughts and emotions
它能让他们为自己的思想和情绪建立一个框架，
so they can focus on it a little more deeply throughout the day.
这样他们就能在一天中更深入地关注它。
Students also keep gratitude journals.
学生们也会写感恩日记。
Research shows that when students express gratitude on a regular basis,
研究表明，当学生定期表达感激之情时，
it increases positive emotions toward themselves and toward others.
他们会增加对自己和他人的积极情绪。
An interpersonal practice that we like to do is at the end of the day,
我们喜欢做的人际交往练习是在一天结束的时候，
we'll have students gather in a circle to offer an appreciation for someone or something.
让学生们围成一个圈，对某人或某事表示感谢。
Open it up to an apology or talk about a social issue that might be on their hearts.
敞开心扉，向对方道歉，或者谈论一个他们可能关心的社会问题。
And we normalize these forms of communication to show boys that
我们将这些交流形式规范化，以向男孩们展示，
it is perfectly human to open your minds and your hearts to your community.
向社区敞开心扉是完全合乎人性的。
Now the third C represents community, to counter this false sense of individualism
第三个C代表社区，为了对抗这种错误的个人主义意识，
and having to pull yourself up by your bootstraps.
导致人们觉得只能靠自己的力量振作起来。
While we also know that there is great value in teaching our boys
虽然我们也知道教育孩子独立的重要性
the importance of independence, it can be stymied when taken to an extreme.
很有价值，但如果走向极端，它反而会变成阻碍。
And so what we do is we engage in an inquiry process where we observe what's going on
所以我们所做的是参与访问调查，观察我们社区中发生的事情，
in our communities, either locally, nationally or globally, and then pose an essential question.
范围可以在地方、国家或全球然后提出一个重点问题。
One year we posed an essential question to our students that asked,
有一年，我们向学生们提出了一个重要问题，
"How can we create a community where everyone feels a sense of belonging?"
“我们如何创造一个让每个人都有归属感的社区?”
Students took this question.
学生们回答了这个问题。
They generated initial thoughts.
他们产生了最初的想法。
They sought multiple perspectives from their peers, their teachers, community leaders.
他们从同龄人、老师和社区领袖那里寻求多种视角。
And then they came back to us and said, "We'd like to address homelessness in Seattle."
然后他们又来找我们说:“我们想解决西雅图的无家可归问题。”
We loved this idea.
我们很喜欢这个主意。
And so we partnered with a local construction company to design, build and donate a tiny house.
因此，我们与当地一家建筑公司合作，设计、建造并捐赠了一座小房子。
Now what we realized is through this community learning process, students felt a greater sense
我们意识到，通过这个社区学习过程，学生对学习、承担学术风险
of satisfaction with studying, taking academic risks and just valuing the overall learning process.
感到更加满意，也更加重视整个学习过程。
In addition, students felt more comfortable taking on leadership roles inside and outside of the classroom.
此外，学生们觉得在课堂内外担任领导角色更舒服。
One thing to note that in each of these three C's the adults involved modeled
值得注意的是，在这三个C中，每一个C都是成年人
this new version of masculinity to prove to students that they don't have to fit into a stereotype.
对男子气概的新定义，以向学生证明他们不必符合刻板印象。
And while I'm often impressed by the vulnerability and kindness of each of my students, it's still a middle school.
虽然我经常钦佩于每个学生的脆弱和善良，它仍然是一所中学。
It's this liminal space between childhood and adulthood.
这是童年和成年之间的临界空间。
And amongst our sophisticated conversations, there's a lot of nonsensical humor.
在我们复杂的对话中，有很多荒谬的幽默。
And very few of them have taken up regular usage of deodorant.
而且很少有人会定期使用除臭剂。
And I know that this is lifelong work and there's no quick fix,
我知道这是一项终生的工作，没有快速解决办法，
but they show me that a better future is possible.
但他们告诉我，更美好的未来是可能的。
What if masculinity meant having a healthy and balanced confidence,
如果男子气概意味着拥有健康和平衡的自信，
communicating clearly, being connected to your community?
清晰地沟通，与你的社区有联系呢?
Just imagine how different our world would be.
想象一下我们的世界将会多么不同。
My students don't even show me that this future is possible, but this future is here,
我的学生甚至没有向我展示这样的未来是可能的，但这样的未来就在这里，
with middle school boys leading the way.
由中学男生带路。
Thank you.
谢谢大家！
