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Some people are also born with more optimism or are more extroverted. Still others have more courage, are more prone to take risks. All of these qualities, generally thought to be inborn components of personality, influence the ease with which you develop resilience. But determination and practice can help anyone promote resilience. It is, in fact, more a learning process than an inherited gift. What, then, do you do to grow resilience?
也有些人天生更加乐观或外向一些。还有些人天生拥有更多的勇气，更倾向于冒险。所有这些品质都会影响到一个人发展韧性的难度，一般认为，这些都属于性格的先天组成部分。但只要有决心，多加练习，每个人都是可以培养韧性的。事实上，韧性的培养更像一个学习过程，而不是先天禀赋。那么，要如何培养韧性呢？
When life hands you a setback, readjust your own identity. Stop thinking of yourself as a victim and start thinking of yourself as a problem-solver.
生活给你挫折时，调整一下自己的定位。别把自己当做受害者，而要把自己当做解决问题的人。
Flip the switch in your brain. Don't focus on yourself or your shortcomings, focus on your goal and what you need to do to get there. Ask yourself, "How do I solve the problem?"
转换一下脑子里的那个开关。不要把注意力集中在自己或自己的缺点上，而要一门心思想着目标，以及怎么做才能到达目的地。问自己，我怎样解决这个问题？
Always challenge yourself to go just beyond your comfort zone. Risk builds resilience, and it's OK to take reasonable risks.
不断挑战自己，走出舒适圈。冒险能培养韧性，适当地冒些险是没有问题的。
The simplest way to go beyond your comfort zone is to learn a new skill. Take up skiing, or snowboarding.
要走出自己的舒适圈，最简单的办法就是学一门新技能，比如滑雪或滑雪板。
There is no end to the number of areas in which you can go beyond your comfort zone. If you argue a lot with your spouse, don't give up. Try for an understanding one more time. If you are having trouble with a child, remember how much you love him or her.
在很多方面，你都可以走出舒适圈。如果你总是和另一半吵架，别放弃。再尝试一次，去理解对方。如果跟孩子的关系出了问题，请记住你有多爱这个孩子。
