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How Smart People Deal with People They Don’t Like
如何巧妙应对讨厌的人？

They turn inwards and focus on themselves.

成熟内敛，注重自我修养

No matter what you try, some people can still really get under our skin . It’s important that you learn how to handle your frustration when dealing with someone who annoys you. Instead of thinking about how irritating that person is, focus on why you are reacting the way you are. Sometimes what we don’t like in others is frequently what we don’t like in ourselves. Besides, they didn’t create the button, they’re only pushing it.

无论你尽多大努力，总会有人惹我们生气。在与惹你生气的人打交道时，你要学会处理自己的失落情绪，这非常重要。不要总想着如何还击，而是应该探究自己如此反应的原因。别人让我们看不惯的地方，也往往意味着，我们对自己也并不是一直满意。别人没有故意让我们看不惯，而只是触到了我们的“怒点”。

Pinpoint the triggers that might be complicating your feelings. You may then be able to anticipate, soften, or even alter your reaction. Remember: it’s easier to change your perceptions , attitude, and behavior than to ask someone to be a different kind of person.

They turn inwards and on themselves.

将自己的“情绪触点”认清，你就能够预期、缓和甚至选择自己的反应。记住：改变自己的看法、态度和行为，远比改变别人简单得多。

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