5. 私人空间(下降趋势) Five: Space (GOING DOWN)
以前,总是男人们声称需要私人时间。现如今,身负工作、照看孩子重担的女人们也在呼唤"私人空间"。然而,由于这一代父亲(小于40岁)更多地照看孩子,这样反而更不会引起夫妻不和。
Traditionally it's been men who've wanted time to themselves, but today women burdened by work and kids are asking for 'me' time too. However it is much less divisive than before as this generation of fathers (under 40) are much more involved with their children.
解决方法:成功的夫妻既是队友也是两个独立的个体。因此,如果你的另一半需要空间,不要前去责难对方。一起商量一下彼此独处的频率和时间,在私人空间和二人世界之间获得平衡。
Solve it: Successful couples are both team-mates and individuals, so don't feel criticised if your partner needs space. Negotiate how often you each need time alone, and for how long, so there is a balance between 'me' time and 'us' time.