4. Share your interests

It's easy to get so caught up in your own thing that you ignore your partner's pursuits. Razor Suleman, CEO of I Love Rewards, a Boston rewards and recognition business with $50 million in sales, tries to avoid that mistake. He joined his wife, Kari, a web developer, at a summit she needed to go to for work. "It was amazing that Razor took an interest in an event that I was excited to attend," she says. "It sparked a dialogue we would not have had otherwise."

4．分享你的兴趣

因为过度关注自己手头的事情，而忽略了对方的兴趣所在，这是很多人都容易犯的毛病。位于美国波士顿的我爱奖励公司（I Love Rewards）是一家员工奖励服务公司，销售额为5，000万美元。公司的首席执行官瑞勒•苏莱曼便是成功避免这个问题的典范。妻子卡丽是网页开发工程师，当她因工作需要必须参加会议时，瑞勒便会陪同前往。卡丽说：“瑞勒对我喜欢参加的活动也感兴趣，这真让人开心。否则，我们就缺少了这样的对话机会。”