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Step #1: Smile and wave
第一步：边笑边招手
Don’t be afraid to use gestures that say, “I’d like to chat with you” — whether that means a smile, a nod, a wave or just eyebrows raised in expectation. Laura Lewis, 27, from River Falls, WI, recently spent much of her lunch hour in a long line at a bank. But instead of getting annoyed, she got a number from the cute guy standing behind her. “We were checking each other out the whole time we stood there,” she explains, “and just as I finished at the teller, I gave him a big, big smile. He gave me a cute little ‘hi there’ wave, so I busied myself rearranging my wallet until he was free to talk.”
不要害怕使用身体语言去表达“我想跟你聊一聊”，不管是一个微笑，一次点头，一个招手或者只是眉手上扬来表达你的期望都是可以的。劳拉·路易斯（Laura Lewis）来自西印度群岛的River Falls，最近花了几个小时的午餐时间在银行门口排队。与其他因为排队而变得很烦躁的人不同，她得到了排在她后面的一个可爱男生的电话。“站在那里时，我们一直都在交谈着，”她说道，“我在柜台取完钱之后，我就对他会心地笑了笑。而他却回给我一个非常可爱的‘你好’手势，然后我就忙着整理我的钱包，直到他也弄好有时间聊天。”
How to practice it: Even though it may seem bold, smiling at strangers is the top way to let them know it’s safe to break through. Try it on everyone and anyone: the bored workers at the post office, a harried mother in front of you at the checkout aisle, or even the toddler sitting in her cart. As you get used to being a smiler, you’ll start doing it naturally — including at the people you most want to meet.
怎样练习：虽然这需要勇气，但是对陌生人微笑是让他们知道如果你和我说话我会友好以待的上策。对待每个人都如此：邮局里感到无聊的员工，在排队等候付账的队伍里着急的母亲，又或者是一个坐在小推车里小孩。你习惯这样做之后，当遇到你最想遇到的人时，你自然而然就会对着他们笑了。
