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Step #2: Be the one who speaks first
第二步：你先开口讲话
Anyone can talk back to someone, but real people-meeters know the trick is starting a chat out of the blue. Susan RoAne, author of How to Create Your Own Luck and What Do I Say Next?, says the secret lies in seeing the world around you as full of opportunities to talk versus waiting to be addressed by someone else.
任何人都可以与某人顶嘴，但是真正能与别人打成一片的人知道最好的办法是在别人不经意的时候与TA谈话。作为《怎样创造幸运》和《我接下来要说什么？》的作者，苏珊·罗安妮（Susan RoAne）表示，奥秘就在于将发生在你身边一切事都当做可与别人谈话的机会，而不是等待别人来与你谈话。
How to do it: In order to break the ice with people you want to date, it helps to start with people you’d normally never speak to — say, the married guy in another department at work or a grandma at the bus stop. Since you’re not worried about whether they’ll shoot you down, you can truly be yourself and get used to talking to perfect strangers. “You have to get comfortable doing it, or you’ll hesitate when you see someone in particular who you want to talk to,” says RoAne. “If you have to think about what to say or feel self-conscious, you’ll hesitate and the moment will be gone.”
怎样做：为了能与你想要约会的对象打破沉默，你最好先和其他从来没有讲过话的人讲话，比如说，在别部门上班的已婚男或公交车站的老奶奶。和他们说话不会让你觉得会被拒之于千里之外，所以那时候的你是真正的你，慢慢也会习惯和陌生人讲话。“你必须让自己在那样做的时候感到很舒服，不然，在与别人谈话，特别是你想要与对方谈话的人时，你就会迟疑了，”罗安妮说道。“如果你必须要想一想才知道说什么或你感觉自己正被人盯着，讲话时你就会停顿，机会也就失去了。”
