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1. Ask For Praise
Expecting your partner to notice things without prompting is often very unfair and can lead to resentment. Keep the beast away by speaking up and bringing attention to things you’d like your partner to notice. If you’ve done something you’d like your partner to take notice of, say something! Got your hair did? Say something! Fixed the dining room table so it doesn’t teeter? Say something!
You did this instinctively when you were a child. Remember running up to a parent or guardian and asking them to look at a picture you’d colored or cape you’d made out of an expensive tablecloth? For most of us, the response was one of amazement (if a bit contrived) and vocal appreciation for our obvious talents.
You’re not so very different now. You still love to be praised when you’ve done well. Even if it’s something you should have done earlier in the week or missed a detail on. How to get that praise? Ask for it and agree to give it when your partner asks you for some appreciation. You know not to crush a child’s spirit by ignoring their efforts to impress you. Are you as smart about your partner?
1.请求表扬
在无提示下期望你的情人注意到某些事，通常非常不公平也容易导致不满。远离这种讨厌的事，坦率地讲明白你希望你的情人注意到某些事。如果你已经做完了你希望对方注意的事，说出来！你做了头发？说出来！修理了餐厅的桌子使它不再摇晃？说出来！
当还是个小孩的时候你会本能地这么去做。还记得你跑到父母或监护人面前要他们看看你涂上了颜色的一副画或者用一张昂贵地桌布做成了披肩吗?对我们大多数人来说，对我们显地才华，这种反应是惊奇（如果有一点小发明）和大声赞扬中的一种。
如今你也没有多大的不同。当你干好某事后你仍然想被表扬。就算是那些你本来这周应该早就完成的或是错过了细节的事。怎么去获得赞扬？去请求表扬并同意当你的情人需要时你也给出赞扬。你知道不能因忽略孩子们为了给你留下印象而做出的努力打击他的心灵。你是否像你父母那样聪明？
