“You'll never succeed.”
你永远不会成功了。
“You're not good enough.”
你不够好。
“You might as well give up now.”
你最好现在放弃吧。
Chances are, you're hearing things like that every single day.
很可能的情况是,你会几乎每天听到这些话。
They don't come from your friend, or even your enemies.
这些话不是从你朋友口中说出,亦不是你的敌人。
They come from inside your own head.
它们来自你的大脑。
Perhaps you're working towards a big goal: like losing weight and getting fit, or starting up your own business. You might have big ambitions ...but you've also got to fight a battle against those internal voices.
也许你在朝着一个大目标努力,比如说减肥瘦身,或者创业。你也许有野心......不过你还需与自己内心的这些声音战斗。
You're not the only person who feels that way. We all have to struggle against self-doubt. And we can all overcome those negative, destructive thoughts that hold us back from reaching our goals.
你不是唯一一个有这种感觉的人。我们都会与自我怀疑斗争。而且我们都能战胜哪些消极的,有破坏性,会阻挠我们成功的想法。
1. Remember What You've Already Accomplished 回忆那些你已经做到的事情
You've managed to achieve lots of amazing things already. Perhaps you’ve made direct progress towards your goal: you've lost 10lbs, so you know you can go on and lose another 10.
你也许以及做到了一些了不起的事。也许你已经朝你的目标迈步,比如说你已经减掉了10磅,所以你能继续减10磅。
Even if your goal is brand-new, you can draw on past accomplishments. Maybe you're overwhelmed by everything you need to learn in order to get your graduate degree...but you can remember how your hard work paid off when you were an undergraduate, or a high school student.
即使你的目标是全新不同的,你也可以引用过去的成就鼓励自己。也许你正被研究生学历弄得焦头烂额……但你可以想想你在本科时的努力获得过回报,或者在高中时期的事。
Do it: Write down three things that you've accomplished. It doesn't matter how big or small they are.
这样做:写下三件你完成过的事。这些事或大或小,但这并不重要。